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Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us to deep dive into the elusive subject of purpose -- why you’re not finding it as easily as the so-called experts say you should be, and why you should be following meaning to purpose instead of picking a purpose and hoping it’s full of meaning. [Featured image by Smart] What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: The difference between purpose and meaning. Why reverse-engineering meaning from purpose is harder (and far less effective) than finding purpose through meaning. What an ER nurse taught Gabriel about the surprising ways meaning can manifest. Why you should be suspicious of what The Cult of Purpose is trying to sell you. The best ways to naturally follow meaning to purpose without forcing an expectation of what that purpose is. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Dec 201849min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! Friend of the show and Entrepreneur on Fire John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) joins us to help a listener begin anew in a new city. If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: If there's such a thing as remorseful flirtation, how should you feel to be on the receiving end of it? As old-timers who have already been there and done that, how do we recommend you live your twenties to their fullest? The management at your current job barely acknowledges you and it's time to move on. Is it appropriate in this case to give notice by email? Will setting boundaries for your narcissistic sibling have any positive effect on your relationship, or should you just cut them off altogether? What's the best way to bid a fair-weather friend adieu after they've made it clear that visiting you on your almost-deathbed was a real inconvenience? Even though you bounced back from your layoff with a huge pay increase and promotion potential galore, you miss your old team and want to stay on good terms. How do you speed up the healing process to make this possible? When you have a lifelong habit of rejecting people before they reject you -- to the point that you've never dated and you don't have any close friends -- what can you do to become more approachable? When moving to a foreign city to reboot your personal and professional life, what's the best way to put down roots, make new connections, and get your brand noticed? Recommendation of the Week: The American Meme Quick shoutout to Corey Anderson! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. On Penn's Sunday School, irreligious libertines discuss the week's news with a somewhat unruly congregation. Check it out on PodcastOne here! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Dec 201850min

Spencer Greenberg (@SpencrGreenberg) is a mathematician, entrepreneur, and founder of Clearer Thinking, a website that trains people to overcome their own biases and make better decisions rationally. What We Discuss with Spencer Greenberg: Common logical fallacies and concepts like black and white thinking, cherry picking, straw man arguments, and the typical mind fallacy. How these logical fallacies can be so powerfully persuasive even in the face of contrary evidence, and why they inhibit our thinking and keep us from getting closer to the truth. How to spot cognitive bias in ourselves and others -- and in the sources we choose to inform us about the outside world. How we can improve our critical thinking, cut through these faulty arguments and biases, and separate fact from fiction with logic over emotion. Practical tools that allow us to cultivate clearer thinking for these often cloudy times. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Dec 201854min

Joe Navarro (@navarrotells) is a retired FBI agent, one of the world's leading experts on nonverbal communication, and author of Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People. What We Discuss with Joe Navarro: How coming to the United States from Cuba at an early age poised Joe Navarro to become one of the world's most respected experts in nonverbal communication. How to spot the narcissists and predators in your midst before they spot you as a clueless opportunity. What to do if you find you're already being wrapped up in the deceitful webs of these dangerous personalities and how to disentangle yourself from them. Why you often let misguided social programming override your natural instincts to sniff out the bad behavior of people in your life and how to tune into those instincts again. The best first step in arming yourself against the actions of predators and narcissists in your life -- whether they're bully bosses or abusive spouses. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Dec 20181h 13min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! Friend of the show and Entrepreneur on Fire John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) joins us to address a common concern of a lot of people have about leaving behind a miserable corporate job to pursue entrepreneurial ambitions. If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You're at a new job and they've already pegged you as the "quiet" one. But what do they really mean? How do you find a tribe of like-minded, growth-oriented people who don't seem like they're part of some motivational cult? After so many "we should hang outs" without follow-ups, should you just accept that a best friend isn't in the cards for you at this point? With a full-time job, supportive girlfriend, and research papers taking up most of your time, how and where can you find opportunities to grow your skill set? You're young, successful, and ready for a relationship -- but you can't seem to find anyone whose drive goes beyond Netflix and work. Where should you be looking? You're good at chatting when given interesting subjects to talk about, but have no skills in coming up with those subjects. How do you create meaningful conversations from scratch? You've got a great job and a comfortable lifestyle, but you regret never finishing college or following your intended career path. Are you a fool to go back to school? Even though you know the entrepreneurial life is right for you, how do you politely convey to your well-meaning but kind of clueless friends that you're not looking for another corporate job? Recommendation of the Week: Strong Ending -- A Journey from Combat to Comedy Quick shoutouts to Vivek at Google and Michael Clobes! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Dec 201845min

Tom Bilyeu (@TomBilyeu) interviewed Jordan on his Impact Theory Podcast earlier this year, and the episode was so well-received that Tom has been kind enough to let us share it here with you! What Tom Discusses with Jordan: Jordan's three rules for improving your relationships -- and not poisoning them. How -- and why -- Jordan wound up giving tours in North Korea. What Jordan did to overcome his childhood shyness and become someone who talks to people in public for a living. Jordan's method for developing body language and esteem and the value of deliberate practice. Jordan and Tom discuss the process of building relationships and common mistakes people make. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Dec 201854min

Andy Molinsky (@andymolinsky) is a professor of organizational behavior and psychology at Brandeis University’s International Business School and author of Global Dexterity: How to Adapt Your Behavior Across Cultures without Losing Yourself in the Process. What We Discuss with Andy Molinsky: Common cross-cultural tripwires. How to diagnose our cultural differences and assess situations in cultural context to build rapport. Processes and practicals to avoid common miscommunications. 10 cultural codes around the world. Tips for leading an international team over cross-cultural hurdles and working together to realize its potential. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Dec 201849min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! Friend of the show and Entrepreneur on Fire John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) joins us to tackle one of our trickier questions about starting a side hustle! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Are once-friendly people really avoiding you for some unknown reason, or is their perceived lack of interaction largely in your own socially anxious head? When you're young and in long-distance love but also looking for a new career path, should you follow your heart and move closer to your sweetheart or follow your head and pursue local educational opportunities in your chosen field? What's the most graceful way to turn down a retention bonus without sending a signal to the company you are looking for another job? You're newly single and going to yoga classes. You want to ask out someone who seems to be expressing interest in you, but you also want to respect the yoga space and not tarnish your ongoing practice at this studio. What's the right next move? You've recently been made privy to sensitive information about your clients from a well-meaning but careless business contact. How do you make this contact understand -- without being ungrateful for their effort -- that such information in the hands of someone less ethical could jeopardize their career and the integrity of your organization? Your boss treats you as a liability rather than an asset thanks to fabricated and unsubstantiated accusations made against you in the past, but rumor has it this person is leaving in a few months. Is it worth your time to get this person to see your value, or should you just stay under the radar until the (fingers crossed) new boss arrives on the scene? Your morale is low at your current company, and in spite of skill stacking to position yourself uniquely in any number of other companies, you can't seem to land an interview elsewhere. Is it time to scratch that entrepreneurial itch you've been feeling with at least an honest foray into the side hustle? What can you do to mend the divide between you and someone with whom you shared a relationship when you empathize with why that person isn't exactly the president of your fan club? Recommendation of the Week: The Final Table Quick shoutout to Dr. Brad Block of the Physician's Guide to Doctoring podcast! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Dec 201844min