Securely Attached23 Okt 2025

Q&A: How can I teach my child if talking about their behavior just makes them reactive and upset all over again?

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...

- Why some kids, especially sensitive kids, get dysregulated all over again when parents calmly try to talk about what happened later.

- How shame can get triggered in your child, even when you're trying to be gentle and supportive.

- What to do when "teaching moments" keep turning into meltdowns.

- Why focusing on the before (not the after) of a hard moment can make all the difference.

- Practical ways to help your child build self-control, handle frustration, and practice new skills without reactivating big emotions.

If you've ever thought, "I waited until she was calm… why is she losing it again?" this episode will help you understand what's really going on beneath the surface and give you fresh, compassionate strategies to help your child learn and grow.

REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

🔗 Go to drsarahbren.com/discipline to download my free guide on effectively disciplining your child with strategies that don't utilize shame or guilt - but still work to get your child to behave!

👉🏻 Learn more about Parenting by Design, my guided program for increasing behavioral and emotional regulation in sensitive kids.

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping "Big Reactors" learn to regulate and manage their intense emotions with Claire Lerner

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about disciplining your sensitive child with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about supporting a child a sensitive child

🎧Listen to my podcast episode about preventing burnout when you have a sensitive child

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