Unearthing Beauty in Your Story & Relationships w/Mara Eller, Type 4
Trauma is so psychologically destructive largely because our brain is not able to create a coherent and empowering narrative out of what happened without support. Today on the podcast, writing teacher and coach Mara Eller, MA, Type 4 (4-7 pairing), gives us that support as she shows us how at the right time and with the right support, we can relive some of those stories in a supportive context where we are safe, and as well as move past these hurts with wisdom and integration. Mara also shares beautiful strategies for narrative writing from her class called, Unearthing Beauty that she shares about on the podcast as well today and invites you to join her there as well for an even deeper dive! Join us on the slow and careful yet empowering walk through the hardest peaks and valleys of your story with a shifting, empowering process today right here. Mara Eller is a teacher, writer, editor, and coach with a passion for transforming pain into purpose through the power of story. Her signature writing program, Unearthing Beauty, teaches students a repeatable process for unearthing a fuller picture of who they are and claiming authorship over their lives, while also producing a polished personal essay. Grab a free exercise to find the heart of your story at maraeller.com/heartofyourstory. Find Mara on her website: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-class Transform your pain with purpose: Learn more about Mara’s Unearthing Beauty writing class here: https://www.maraeller.com/unearthing-beauty-class Learn about Mara’s professional editing services here: https://www.maraeller.com/editing Follow Mara’s Substack here: https://maraeller.substack.com/ Find Mara's free resources here! https://www.maraeller.com/classes/#heart-of-your-story Watch the uncut version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/g4Cyl7FRSi4 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
16 Sep 202459min
An E + M Special: Breaking the Cycle of Sexual Exploitation w/Exodus Cry Founder Benji Nolot, Type 4
Today, in this E + M special, we take the justice-fighting lens together as a community to bring awareness to the issue of sex trafficking and sexual exploitation in relationships and around the world. We have a leading world expert with us to talk about it today, Exodus Cry founder, filmmaker, and artist, Benjamin Nolot (Enneagram 4), who shares the mission and issues involved on all sides of sex trafficking and exploitation, from pornography to sex trafficking. Make sure you tune in as we break down understanding of cycles of disempowerment, why people get caught up in these cycles, and most of all, work together to bring awareness and abolish sex trafficking, porn use, and other disempowering and unhealthy shame-and-power-based sexual practices, and to protect our next generation from being exposed and exploited as well. Read Raised on Porn: https://shop.exoduscry.com/products/raised-on-porn-book Join the Freedom Gala in Dana Point, California, on October 26! https://exoduscry.com/gala/ Follow Exodus Cry on social media/Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CXfFGu3pI49/ Follow the website here: www.exoduscry.com Watch YouTube: https://youtu.be/JpL4Af047X4 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11 Sep 202443min
Finding and Releasing the Emotions Holding You Back w/Adam Young, Enneagram 8
Culturally, it's very hard for busy, overwhelmed individuals to take time to sit with and process emotions. Yet today's podcast guest, renowned trauma and StoryWork therapist Adam Young, (The Place We Find Ourselves podcast) Enneagram 8 (8-9 pairing), encourages us to do exactly that - sit in the hard and allow yourself time and attention to what's holding you back from thriving so you can heal together with support. This is a must-listen episode as we examine his journey on this, why many people ignore their own issues in favor of helping others with theirs, and what we must do to truly find health and healing from our past. Deep dive with Adam Young and his therapy and trauma tips with conversations on his podcast, The Place We Find Ourselves: https://open.spotify.com/show/36bU2hcguX97EDOi9Ja0tQ Pre-order Adam's book, "Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything," here: https://a.co/d/7KVJJ2F Find Adam's website: https://adamyoungcounseling.com/ Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adamyoungcounseling/ Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/riP-QQqsRP0 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9 Sep 202435min
Finding Our Way Back Together in Conflict & for Each Type
Every couple desperately needs to know how to repair, yet few know the steps for doing so. Finding one another after a conflict is hard, since couples typically either self-protect by imploding while still hurt or by lashing out. Today Christa educates you on one-to-one tactics you can use to bring life back into the relationship. In today's E + M episode, individuals get the chance to get those tangible steps, both in general and type by type. Tune in to this must-listen episode and save it again for a time of conflict, too! Email enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/MjEKeYvttUM Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4 Sep 202418min
Shifting Into Healthy Vulnerable in Relationships w/Raleigh Sadler, Type 6
It's one thing to be vulnerable by choice and quite another to find yourself unwittingly so. Today, we discuss the healthiest ways to share our human vulnerabilities with expert Raleigh Sadler, Enneagram Type 6 (The MercyCast ) in a rich conversation on what vulnerability is and how hard it is to be vulnerable in relationships, especially when we've been burned or haven't known how to navigate sensitive terrain. Here you'll find tips for when to lean in, when to set some distance, and when rest is needed after a vulnerable event. We also specifically give tips for men seeking a culture of healthy vulnerability, since there are often extra layers of barriers here. Lastly and most urgently, we touch on some of the most vulnerable populations out there as Raleigh's outreach largely surrounds the most vulnerable in our population, sex trafficking victims, with his world outreach, Let My People Go. Find Raleigh Sadler's deep conversations on his podcast, The MercyCast: www.mercycast.com Find Raleigh's book, Vulnerability here!: https://a.co/d/h3ZJX51 Find Raleigh's website: www.RaleighSadler.com Find Raleigh on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raleighsadler/?hl=en Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/a_mIf39iCFw Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2 Sep 202454min
An E + M Mini: Finding and Aligning Your Values in Marriage
When spouses don't align on their deepest core values, it's hard to get along and yet many spouses find it hard to articulate what those core values even are for them. Today Christa walked you through a few simple exercises to get in touch with the values inside of you so you can live most authentically as yourself, and also learn to appreciate those values your spouse brings to the table, disparate though they may be. Listen right here on this brand new mini-episode just for you as you align with yourself and one another again or for the very first time! Values List: https://emeriti.usc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Values-list-Brene-Brown.pdf Email enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/KYQQBvn-0Vc Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
28 Aug 202420min
Bringing Your Laments Into the Light w/Tanner Olson of Written to Speak, Type 3
When heartbreak happens, you're not alone. Yet often our first human instincts involve shutting down fast and then isolating ourselves, spilling grief into unhealthy corners such as overworking, overly seeking commendation, or just disconnecting from God and others in our lament. Today we talk with author and poet Tanner Olson, Type 3 (3-5 pairing), @Written to Speak, about instead bringing these laments into the light. Tanner takes us on a deep dive into his experience of finding the light of Christ even in the darkness of life's unexpected twists and turns, including unexplained infertility. Whatever your experience of uncertainty in the midst of waiting or grief, don't miss this episode that also includes a conversation about Tanner's marriage and pairing, encouraging tips for you, and even a live reading of one of his poems from his acclaimed book, "Walk a Little Slower," as you too find your most authentic ways to share and bring light to the darkness. Find Tanner on Instagram here: https://www.writtentospeak.com/about-tanner-olson Find Tanner’s highly acclaimed “Walk a Little Slower” here: https://a.co/d/fDvVZvP Learn more about Tanner’s speaking, project, and books here: www.WrittentoSpeak.com Email enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/rYSNLcb1OJw Learn About Relationships & the Enneagram! 🥳💕 Get Christa's "The Enneagram in Marriage" book right here: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370 Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
26 Aug 202442min
Emotionally Attuning w/Yourself This Season: An E + M Mini
Each of us has emotional parts of ourselves that are difficult to access - we are busy and survival does not allow for constant and deep self-attunement. Today, in this powerful E + M mini-episode, Christa welcomes you to find your healthiest rhythms with yourself as we walk through several simple self-attunement exercises as you welcome a new season. Here we invite you to deeper emotional practices and margin to bring you more in touch with yourself and the ways you’ll need to balance and truly thrive this season. Here's the Refresh Prayer Cycle from the episode also: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Bkbqhm8IV2xq7_Lplydz8sPCS0B6MZM2H-eZYkSoPIQ/edit?usp=drive_link Sign up for the Enneamsummit: Mental Health. Get the All-Access Pass here: https://www.tylerzach.com/a/2147912099/LS2nNmzL Email enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com with your book receipt for your digital copy of The Hidden Chapter Listen on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/jEtZgXkHrpE Spread the word about the podcast here! 📣🥳 Leave your review of this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join Christa virtually on your own time in the Enneagram in Marriage 5-week course here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-enneagram-in-marriage-5-week-course-for-sale We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o We would love to hear from you! Leave your questions or messages for Christa or sign up for coaching RIGHT HERE: https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/contact-us Sign Up For Christa's WEEKLY NEWSLETTER here: https://enneagramandmarriage.myflodesk.com/olivbuf96o Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@enneagramandmarriage?lang=en Have a specific question? Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too , here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
21 Aug 202416min
