Securely Attached28 Okt 2025

Why you keep getting triggered: Understanding insecure attachment and breaking the cycle with Jessica Baum

Joining me this week is Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, relationship expert, and author of the new book SAFE: Coming Home to Yourself and Others.

Together we explore:

- How insecure attachment patterns form in childhood and continue to shape how we show up as adults and parents.

- Why parents with a history of insecure attachment may find themselves more easily triggered by their children.

- The difference between awareness and healing, and why insight alone isn't enough to create real change.

- How to repair attachment wounds by learning to regulate your own nervous system.

- What the "Wheel of Attachment" reveals about the fluid, nuanced nature of our attachment patterns.

- How doing your own inner work can transform not just your relationships, but the emotional security you pass down to your kids.

If you've ever wondered why you react the way you do or how to stop repeating painful relational cycles, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and give you hope that true, lasting healing is possible.

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

🔗https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview

📚Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships

📚Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love

🔗 Conscious Relationship Group

FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA:

📱IG: @jessicabaumlmhc, FB: Conscious Relationship Group, LinkedIn: Jessica Baum, LMHC, CAP

📱@drsarahbren

ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES:

🔗 Interested in learning more about attachment science? Go to drsarahbren.com/secure to download my free guide, The Four Pillars of Fostering Secure Attachment, helping you parent with a focus on attunement and trust.

📚 The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships

🔗 What is conscious parenting?

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode breaking down the basics of attachment theory (this is a great place to start!)

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about codependency, insecure attachment, and relationship patterns with Alana Carvalho

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode whether or not insecure attachment is really as bad as we think with attachment researcher Dr. Or Dagan

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about how to break the cycle of generational trauma and insecure attachment patterns with Dr. Miriam Steele

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