141. Tips For Managing Dating Anxiety To Try On Your Next Date w/ Jeff Guenther, LPC

141. Tips For Managing Dating Anxiety To Try On Your Next Date w/ Jeff Guenther, LPC

What do you do if you get anxious on dates? My guest, Jeff Guenther, LPC (@TherapyJeff), shares many practical tips for managing anxiety on dates and enjoying the process more! We talk about different ways anxiety shows up, specifically how to ask for feedback from your dates and how to cope when you feel anxious on dates. Jeff also shares his advice for folks in new relationships, including eight questions to ask once you've DTR'd (defined the relationship).


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Questions to ask after defining the relationship


  • Are there any aspects of our relationship you want to keep private?
  • How do you define cheating?
  • How do you want me to break up with you?
  • Will you feel hurt if I start watching a new TV series without you?
  • When we order food, should I assume we’re sharing or is it separate?
  • How much time should we plan to spend together on average?
  • If I ever cheated on you just once, how would you want me to handle it?
  • Should we talk about everyone we've hooked up with, especially if we're still talking to them?

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    About Jeff Guenther, LPC


    Jeff earned a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California and a bachelor’s degree in Child and Family Development from San Diego State University. His therapeutic career began at a crisis line, where he supported individuals experiencing suicidal thoughts and severe anxiety. Before establishing his private practice, Jeff also provided therapy to high-risk students in the public school system. Since 2005, he has called Portland, Oregon, home, focusing his practice on helping both couples and individuals.

    In his spare time, Jeff creates engaging one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, along with more in-depth content on Passes. Follow him across platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks, and resources designed to enhance mental health.

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