How To Let Go of Self-Doubt and Transform Your Life with Elena Brower

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker, and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and how to go about getting things done. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss How to Get Things Done and… His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone The Tao Te Ching Focusing on your input and letting go of the results We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them Creative constipation breeds toxicity  We’re either creating something or destroying something We don’t do ideas, we do projects How doing our best work is often really hard The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not The problem with automatically believing our thoughts How discipline limits decision fatigue How action expresses priority Charlie Gilkey Links: Charlie’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook Upstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity, and Meditation David Kadavy on Getting Started See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Dec 202153min

Arthur Brooks is a bestselling author, social scientist, and the President of the American Enterprise Institute. He teaches Leadership and Happiness at the Harvard School of Business. In this episode, Eric and Arthur discuss happiness as well as his book,  Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Arthur Brooks and I Discuss What It Takes to Find Happiness and… His book, Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America From the Culture of Contempt The four extrinsic things that feed off fear are money, power, pleasure, and fame The four intrinsic things that feed off love are faith, family, friendships, and meaningful work How happiness requires meaning and having meaning requires challenge and/or difficulty The three aspects of meaning are coherence, purpose, and significance How writing out the thing you learned from a bad experience can bring meaning to it Learning to find significance in the small things How we need to stop living in the future and appreciate being in the present The freeing idea that nobody really cares like we think they do The more you judge others, the more you will feel judged The therapy for feeling insecure is to stop judging and start observing The link between humor and happiness How we should reject grimness Rejecting the expectations of the holidays can lead to more happiness Arthur Brooks Links: Arthur’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook Novo Nordisk - Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management. To learn more, visit truthaboutweight.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Arthur Brooks, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Jonathan Rauch – The Happiness Curve Ruth Whippman on The Complexity of Happiness See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Dec 202148min

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist. In 1996, Jill experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain, causing her to lose the ability to walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life. John Britton is a former anesthesiologist who suffered a right brain injury leaving him with only his left brain to function. After hearing Jill’s previous episode on this show, John contacted Eric and they thought it would be interesting to host a conversation with John and Dr. Bolte Taylor to discuss their respective experiences. In this episode, Jill, John, Ginny, and Eric talk about what it’s like to experience the world through your right brain vs. your left brain and how they come together to make for whole-brain living.  But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, John Britton, and I Discuss Right Brain Injury vs Left Brain Injury and… The functions of and interaction between the right and left hemispheres of the brain How the left brain governs past and future, me the individual, details, boundaries, language That the right brain governs the present, the “we” collective, connections, expansive, and openness The way the two hemispheres of our brain interact with one another in a healthy brain How John experienced the world before, during, and after his right brain injury The most helpful rehabilitation approach for John post his injury Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s experience of her left hemisphere traumatic brain injury and her recovery story Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor Links: Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s Website Twitter Facebook Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor and John Britton, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Whole Brain Living with Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor The Divided Yet Connected Brain with Iain McGilchrist Lessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman Barrett See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Dec 202156min

Ethan Kross is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. He is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business and also the Director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. In addition to countless television appearances, Ethan’s research has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and many others.  In this episode, Ethan and Eric talk about his book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Ethan Kross and I Discuss How to Harness the Chatter in Our Head and… His book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters, and How to Harness It How we have both emotional and cognitive needs when dealing with the “chatter” in our heads Common triggers for internal chatter are uncertainty and lack of control The three main categories of tools to work with chatter Learning to zoom out and broaden our perspective Distance self-talk is talking to yourself like you’d talk to another person Temporal distancing (mental time travel)  Expressive writing about negative experiences Using your imagination to replay a past experience to gain objectivity Harnessing our internal chatter rather than silencing it How to think about thinking and what we can and cannot control Being aware of how easy some of these tools are to implement Creating if/then plans increases the likelihood you’ll remember to use the tools Environmental tools and the benefits of getting outside in nature  How cleaning and organizing our physical space impacts our mental state Ethan Kross Links: Ethan’s Website Twitter Instagram Novo Nordisk – Explore the science behind weight loss and partner with your healthcare provider for a healthy approach to your weight management. If you enjoyed this conversation with Ethan Kross, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Overthinking and Internal Soundtracks with Jon Acuff Scott Gornto See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Dec 202156min

Jillian Richardson is the founder of The Joy List, which is a newsletter with the mission of making New York City – and eventually the world – a less lonely place. She also hosts The Joy List Social, an event where you can show up by yourself and leave with a new friend.  In this episode, Jillian and Eric talk about her new book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World.   But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jillian Richardson and I Discuss How to Become Unlonely and … Her book, Unlonely Planet: How Healthy Congregations Can Change the World Some of the barriers that get in the way of making friendships Some strategies we can use to make friendships Three relationship strengthening tactics How to know when vulnerability slides into neediness That looking for the “perfect” person or group of people can stump you in your search for meaningful connection When you might want to reflect on your relationship to the idea of groups Where to start when you’re lonely and want to connect with others How to meet people if you’re an introvert The importance of being kind to yourself in this process Jillian Richardson Links: Jillian’s Website Twitter Instagram Upstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolf Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Jillian Richardson, you might also enjoy these other episodes: How to Find Joy and Community with Radha Agrawal Belonging and Connection with Sebene Selassie See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Dec 202155min

Oliver Burkeman is a British journalist and writer based in New York. He is well known not only for his amazing books, but he also wrote a popular weekly column on psychology called “This Column will Change Your Life” which was printed weekly between 2006 and 2020.   Oliver joins Eric for a third time on the show, and in this episode, they discuss many things, including his new book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals” But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss Time Management for Mortals and … His book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals” How we invest more energy and focus on trying to escape certain feelings Finitude and understanding that life is finite Time and how we relate to it as something we have and use The idea that we are time rather than we have time Accepting the truth of your finitude allows you to live more in the present Confusing meaningful with extraordinary Cosmic insignificance therapy suggests that we reexamine the threshold of what makes a meaningful life Our tendency to want to define and measure what is meaningful in life How the pursuit of using time well can lead us to live in the future rather than being present Asking ourselves if something is expanding or contracting to us The modern attention economy and being aware if we are choosing where our attention goes How the things that matter most to us can provoke unpleasant emotions that lead to seeking distractions The problem isn’t how things are, but rather how we think they should be Trying too hard to be present in the moment  Accepting the impossibility of complete control  Oliver Burkeman Links: Oliver’s Website Twitter Oliver’s Posts Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Oliver Burkeman, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019) Oliver Burkeman (2014) Living Between Worlds with James Hollis See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Dec 202155min

Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He's an international bestselling author, a world-renowned expert on word of mouth, social influence, consumer behavior, and how products, ideas, and behaviors can catch on. In this episode, Eric and Jonah discuss his book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jonah Berger and I Discuss How to Change Anyone's Mind and … His book, The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind How people change That most decisions that we make are shaped by other people The major mistake most of us make when it comes to trying to change behavior in ourselves and others How to create change by reducing the barriers and energy required Feeling like we should do something vs because we want to do something People's zones of acceptance and rejection What it means to "highlight a gap" and how it can help us change How the costs of change often come due before the benefits of change are experienced What factors drive Identification vs Differentiation Jonah Berger Links: Jonah's Website Twitter Instagram Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.    If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonah Berger, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life with Luke Burgis Effectively Thinking Ahead with Bina Venkataraman See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Nov 202145min

Stressed by Holiday Expectations? Join Eric and The One You Feed Community for a FREE online gathering on November 30th at 8pm Eastern Time. (Recording will be available for 72 hours) In this free live event, Eric will teach a Spiritual Habit that will allow you to release these types of stress and touch into a deeper feeling of wholeness, peace, steadiness, and presence. Register Now! In case you’re just recently joining us, or however long you’ve been a listener of the show, you may not realize that we have over 7 years of incredible episodes in our archive! We’ve had so many wonderful guests that we decided to handpick one of our favorites that may be new to you, but if not, is definitely worth another listen!  Mark Manson is an author and personal development consultant. His writing is a different take on the self-help genre that he calls self-help from a first-person perspective. Mark has been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald, and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Mark Manson and I Discuss Important Lessons in Life and … Opportunity costs and being aware of the sacrifices His most popular article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*& The misconception of confidence The friendship test in romantic relationships How he applies logic in his writing Positive thinking and his issue with “The Secret” How inspiration often comes from taking action His “Do Something” principle Mistaking happiness for pleasure How true happiness comes from the meaning of our experiences Our need to always be challenged in life How our pursuits change as we get older His article on Ken Wilbur, an American philosopher Mark Manson Links: Mark’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Manson, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Everyday Courage with Ryan Holiday Love, Grace, and Grit with Sebastian Siegel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Nov 202142min