How to Be Awesome at Your Job

Jeremy Pollack shares how to prevent conflict from ruining your relationships. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The six basic needs at the heart of conflict 2) Three tactics for keeping your calm in a conflict 3) How to handle a conflict that’s going nowhere Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep706 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT JEREMY — Jeremy Pollack is a leader in the field of workplace conflict resolution and peacebuilding. He is the Founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems, the largest workplace conflict resolution consulting firm in North America, and a regular contributor on the topics of leadership and organizational conflict management to publications such as Forbes.com, Fast Company, Industry Week, and many more. Jeremy is also the author of the recently released book The Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving, Conflict. • Book: "Conflict Resolution Playbook: Practical Communication Skills for Preventing, Managing, and Resolving Conflict" • Personal website: CoachJeremyPollack.com • Website: PollackPeaceBuilding.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: Robber’s Cave Experiment • Book: Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Setapp. Try out up to 200 of the best software tools in one streamlined place at setapp.com. • Blinkist. Read or listen to summarized wisdom from thousands of nonfiction books! Free trial available at blinkist.com/awesome See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Sep 202129min

Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson break down their simple four-step process for encouraging others to change. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The critical question that opens others to change 2) The best thing to do when a person doesn’t want to change 3) The perils of giving positive feedback Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep705 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT PETER & HOWIE — Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners. He coaches, writes, teaches, and speaks, mostly about leadership and about life. His sweet spot is as a strategic thought partner to successful people who care about being exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, the bestselling author of five books, and host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast. His works frequently appear in Harvard Business Review, BusinessWeek, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, CNN, and NPR.Howie Jacobson, PhD, is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is director of coaching at Bregman Partners and head coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative, as well as host of the Plant Yourself Podcast. He’s written a bunch of books, and his mission includes helping kind and generous people grow their capability and scale their influence.• Book: You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees-- Even Family-- Up Their Game — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Crooked Kingdom: A Sequel to Six of Crows (Six of Crows, 2) by Leigh Bardugo • Book: Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World by Tyson Yunkaporta — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Storyworth. Give Dad a super meaningful Father’s Day gift this year at StoryWorth.com/awesome.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Sep 202142min

Dorie Clark reveals the critical skills that help us think long-term and set ourselves up for future success. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The three barriers to long-term strategic thinking 2) The top two skills that make you indispensable 3) What to do when you’re stuck in a rut Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep704 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT DORIE — Dorie Clark helps individuals and companies get their best ideas heard in a crowded, noisy world. She has been named one of the Top 50 business thinkers in the world by Thinkers50, and was honored as the #1 Communication Coach in the world at the Marshall Goldsmith Coaching Awards. She is a keynote speaker and teaches for Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and Columbia Business School. She is the author of Entrepreneurial You, which was named one of Forbes’ Top 5 Business Books of the Year, as well as Reinventing You and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of the Year by Inc. magazine. A former presidential campaign spokeswoman, Clark has been described by the New York Times as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives.” She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, and consults and speaks for clients such as Google, Yale University, and the World Bank. She is a graduate of Harvard Divinity School, a producer of a multiple Grammy-winning jazz album, and a Broadway investor. • Dorie’s book: The Long Game: How to Be a Long-Term Thinker in a Short-Term World • Dorie’s website: DorieClark.com • Free assessment: The Long Game: Your Strategic Thinking Self-Assessment — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: “Executive Presence” by Sylvia Ann Hewlett, Lauren Leader-Chivée, Laura Sherbin, and Joanne Gordon with Fabiola Dieudonné • Book: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini • Book: The Marshmallow Test: Understanding Self-control and How To Master It by Walter Mischel — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Setapp. Try out up to 200 of the best software tools in one streamlined place at setapp.com.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Sep 202145min

Jonathan Fields discusses how to spark meaning, fulfillment, and joy in your work by aligning with your Sparketype. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) A (free!) assessment that identifies what makes you come alive 2) The ten impulses that describe how we work 3) The fundamental questions that create career fit Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep703 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT JONATHAN — Jonathan Fields hosts one of the top-ranked podcasts in the world, Good Life Project®, where he shares powerful stories, conversations, and resources, on a mission to help listeners live more meaningful and inspired lives. Fields is also the founder and CEO of Spark Endeavors, a research initiative focused on helping individuals and organizations reclaim work as a source of purpose, energy, meaning, and possibility. His new book, SPARKED: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work That Makes You Come Alive delivers an important message in a time when many people are emerging from the pandemic and seeking out new work that will both challenge and fulfill them. • Jonathan’s book: Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive • Jonathan’s podcast: Good Life Project Podcast • Jonathan’s website: GoodLifeProject.com • Jonathan’s website: Sparketype.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: The Bhagavad Gita, translated by Eknath Easwaran • Book: The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Postie. Run direct mail like a digital marketer with at postie.com/awesome. • StoryBlocks. Enhance your video storytelling quickly, beautifully, and affordably at Storyblocks.com/awesome. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Sep 202138min

Jim Detert discusses how to build your courage to stand out and influence. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why acting courageously is easier than you think 2) The four fears that keep us from acting courageously 3) The most effective way to get others to listen to you Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep702 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT JIM — Jim Detert (PhD, Harvard) is the John L. Colley Professor of Business Administration at the University of Virginia's Darden School of Business. Detert's research focuses on employee voice and other forms of workplace courage, experiential leadership development, and ethical decision-making and behavior. His research has won several academic best-paper awards, and his teaching and curriculum development have also won multiple awards at UVA and Cornell. • Jim’s book: Choosing Courage: The Everyday Guide to Being Brave at Work • Jim’s article: "Words and Phrases to Avoid in a Difficult Conversation" • Jim’s LinkedIn: Jim Detert • Jim’s website: JimDetert.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: Milgram Experiment • Study: Asch Conformity Experiments • Book: Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell • Book: Brave New World by Aldous Huxley • Book: Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality by Anthony De Mello • Book: Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity by Kim Scott • Personality: Chris Argyris — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • LMNT. Get a free sample pack with 8 delicious electrolyte packets at DrinkLMNT.com/awesome. • Blinkist. Read or listen to summarized wisdom from thousands of nonfiction books! Free trial available at blinkist.com/awesome. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Sep 202141min

Vanessa Bohns talks about how all of us have hidden influence and how we can use it effectively. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) Why we end up underestimating the willingness to say yes 2) How to get more comfortable with asking 3) How to say no without feeling guilty or awkward Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep701 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT VANESSA — Vanessa Bohns is a social psychologist, an award-winning researcher and teacher, and a professor of organizational behavior at Cornell University. She holds a PhD in psychology from Columbia University and an AB in psychology from Brown University. Professor Bohns has been a Visiting Scholar at the NYU Stern School of Business and has taught at the University of Toronto's Rotman School of Management. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and Harvard Business Review, and her research has been published in top academic journals in psychology, management, and law, and featured by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR's Hidden Brain. Her first book, You Have More Influence Than You Think, will be published in September 2021. She lives in upstate New York with her husband and two daughters. • Book: You Have More Influence Than You Think: How We Underestimate Our Power of Persuasion, and Why It Matters • Twitter: @profbohns • Website: VanessaBohns.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: "The really fundamental attribution error in social psychological research" by Sabini, J., Siepmann, M., & Stein, J • Blog: Rejection Therapy with Jia Jiang • Book: Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott • Book: Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want by Nicholas Epley • Book: Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection by Jia Jiang See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Sep 202135min

Neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki talks about how you can leverage your anxiety to solve problems and boost your well-being. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The six superpowers of anxiety 2) How to trick your brain into relaxing 3) How a 30-second meditation can make all the difference Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep700 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT WENDY — Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Professor of Neural Science and Psychology in the Center for Neural Science at New York University and a celebrated international authority on neuroplasticity. She was recently named one of the ten women changing the way we see the world by Good Housekeeping and regularly serves as a sought-after expert for publications including The Wall Street Journal, Shape, and Health. Her TED talk has received more than 31 million views on Facebook and was the 2nd most viewed TED talk of 2018. • Book: Good Anxiety: Harnessing the Power of the Most Misunderstood Emotion • Website: www.WendySuzuki.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: A Very Punchable Face: A Memoir by Colin JostSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Sep 202132min

Brad Stulberg discusses the fundamental mindset shift that helps us feel more fulfilled every day. — YOU’LL LEARN — 1) The deeply-rooted belief that explains why we’re often dissatisfied 2) The simple secret to feeling more fulfilled every day 3) The hidden costs of efficiency Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep699 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT BRAD — Brad Stulberg is an internationally known expert on human performance, well-being, and sustainable success. He is coauthor of the bestselling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. His work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times, Wired, Forbes, and more, and he is a contributing editor to Outside Magazine. In his coaching practice, Brad works with executives and entrepreneurs on their performance and well-being, and he regularly speaks to large organizations on these topics as well. • Brad’s book: The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds—Not Crushes—Your Soul • Brad’s Twitter: @BStulberg • Brad’s website: www.BradStulberg.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Article: “Track Your Happiness iPhone Study Finds That Your Mind Is Wandering Too Much” • Book: The Bulletproof Diet: Lose up to a Pound a Day, Reclaim Energy and Focus, Upgrade Your Life by David Asprey • Book: Middlemarch by George Eliot • Previous episode: 164: Sustaining Your Peak and Avoiding Burnouts with Brad Stulberg • Previous episode: 415: Pursuing Your Passion the Smart Way with Brad Stulberg — THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Postie. Run direct mail like a digital marketer with at postie.com/awesome. • StoryBlocks. Enhance your video storytelling quickly, beautifully, and affordably at Storyblocks.com/awesome. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Sep 202143min