171 Why Self-Agreements Will Make or Break Your Relationships
If you have a hard time keeping relationship agreements, you probably also have a hard time keeping the agreements you make with yourself. If that’s you, or if you’ve never even tried to make self-agr...
28 Sep 202453min
170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic
“Jealousy is just insecurity, so if you become more secure in yourself, you won't feel jealous anymore.” Ever heard that one before? We have, and we don’t agree. One of the reasons I love thinking abo...
21 Sep 202444min
169 Q&A Quickie: Why am I having such a hard time sticking to my agreements?
Relationship agreements are awesome. They can take you from a place of ambiguity and assumptions to a place of clarity and transparency. But what happens when the hardest part of relationship agreemen...
14 Sep 202441min
168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin
Eve and Andrea created a book that I wish I had 15 years ago when I was making the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy. And I don’t say that lightly (if you know me, you know I have a LOT of poly...
7 Sep 202456min
167 Unfuck Your Monomind, Part 2
Confession: We have not solved our mono-minds. The paradigm of monogamy runs deep in our society, so even though we’ve done decades of deep work to break out of those default frameworks and process ou...
31 Aug 202436min
166 Q&A Quickie: How do I deal with my anxiety when my partner is on a date?
Scenario: your anchor partner is on a date with someone else. You know they have a super hot connection, and sex is definitely on the table. You’re excited for them… but once they leave, and the time ...
24 Aug 202425min
165 Monogamy, In This Economy? with Laura Boyle
Money, parenting, sharing space, schedules, rental agreements… these may not be the sexiest and most exciting aspects of non-monogamy, but they are important. In fact, they’re common stumbling blocks,...
17 Aug 202447min
164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method)
A lot of personal growth work is about recognizing and focusing on what we can change in our lives. Take responsibility and make the changes needed. But sometimes you’re stuck. Stuck and bewildered by...
10 Aug 202454min
