SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My long-term girlfriend wants me to talk dirty in bed but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I feel incredibly self-conscious and have no idea what to say. Can you give me some ideas and please don’t make me sound I’m in an awful porn video.I met a guy online and we’re about to meet in person. I found it really easy chatting and flirting with him online or on Zoom but in person I’m not half as confident. I worry when he sees the real me in person he’ll be disappointed. I also gave the impression I’d be open to a lot more things sexually than I really am. What do I do now?How much are we ‘allowed’ to have our own sexual life, indeed sex ‘secrets’ within a relationship? I’m not talking about having an affair, but is it ok to masturbate without telling our partner we’ve done it? I’m assuming that’s a yes, it’s ok, but what about confessing to watching porn when we masturbate? Or having a secret sex toy just for ourselves? And, discussing sex on social media — where should you draw the ‘me only’ line?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

13 Juli 202127min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I find sex at best uncomfortable, at worst outright painful. How do I make it more enjoyable? I have seen my doctor and he doesn’t seem to think there’s anything obviously wrong.We used to kiss all the time but just two years in, it’s all gone. I really miss it. How do I get it back again? We don’t even kiss during sex anymore. Do other long-term couples still kiss using their tongues?My partner takes Viagra ‘just for fun’. He doesn’t need it – he’s only 32 and doesn’t have erection problems – but I think he likes the feeling of being really hard. I worry it’s not good for him and that he will become reliant. He says he’s been using it on and off for years. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

6 Juli 202128min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:My partner and I want to try anal sex for the first time. Can you give us some tips on how to go about it? I don’t want it to hurt. Are there things you can do to make it hurt less?I’ve been seeing a new man for about a month and he still hasn’t made a move. I’m used to men hitting on me on the first date. What’s going on? Does this mean he doesn’t find me sexually attractive?I was raised in the Catholic Church and their viewpoint on sex is very negative and close-minded. Now that I am older and not involved in the church anymore, I am trying to relearn basic behaviors and change my mindset surrounding sex. I often am overwhelmed with feelings of "Catholic Guilt" any time I find myself filled with desire and want. I have a hard time relaxing and getting that guilt out of my mind during sex or while using my vibrator that it is really hard for me to enjoy the act of sex. Besides therapy, what are my options to overcome this wall?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

29 Juni 202124min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I’ve just started my first relationship with a woman - my others have all been with men. I wonder if you could give me some tips on giving another woman oral sex. I feel like I should know how to do it, because I’ve got what she’s got. But it’s not as easy as I thought. I feel like I’m terrible at it.Sometimes I would do anything to have sex and other times, I couldn’t think of anything worse. My partner gets really annoyed with me and says he doesn’t know where he is with it all. Why does this happen and how can I make him understand it’s not my fault it happens? Is it something to do with my menstrual cycle?I have always enjoyed using sex toys with partners but my new boyfriend is really threatened by them. Most especially my favorite vibrator, which is a Rabbit. How can I get him to relax and enjoy them like my other lovers have?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

22 Juni 202123min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I have met a new man and really like him but the sex is OK at best. Is this a bad sign? Doesn’t everyone have great sex at the start? Should you leave if the sex is no good?The husband of a close friend of mine keeps coming onto me. It’s making things very awkward. I am a close friend of both of them and currently single. I’ve been spending a lot of time with them and he’s always saying how he can’t understand why no one is snapping me up, men should be beating the door down, etc. About a month ago, he made it clear that he’s very attracted to me and would love to take it further. What should I do? Do I tell my friend?I have lots of fantasies and am wondering if I should share them with my partner. Our sex life is fine but it could do with a bit of livening up. What’s your take on telling your partner your fantasies?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15 Juni 202119min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:I am 42, have been single for three years, and am starting to think I am never going to meet anyone. Even worse, I know so many other women in the same boat. Why are there so many attractive, accomplished, together single women and no men that fit that description? Where have all the good men gone?I am interested in being polyamorous and dating more than one person at once. When is the right time to tell a new partner that you are intending on having relationships with more than one person? I feel like it will put a lot of people off.My question is about locations. What if your partner wants to have sex in risky locations (the kids seeing, the dog in the room)? What if you want to have sex in erotic locations (beach, car, rooftop) and your partner doesn't?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

8 Juni 202128min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1. How can I get my partner to get more kinky? I've tried suggesting things, I've changed positions and he always reverts back to missionary style. I’d love to do it on the table, against the wall. Nothing works for him except in bed, the same way. This is boring! I even told him I have sex toys – he’s not even interested in that. I have a very old-fashioned guy.2. I can’t stop thinking about the sex my partner had with his ex. I met her recently and she was sexy, confident, and flirtatious. I’ve had a video of the two of them at it whirling around in my head ever since. I don’t want to talk to him about it unless he confirms my worst fears: that I’m not half as sexy/good in bed as she is.3. My previous boyfriend used to constantly make fun of the face I make when I orgasm. It’s made me really self-conscious and I’m now dreading having sex with any future boyfriends. How can I get past it?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Juni 202126min

In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1. I’m married and having an affair with a man who is also married. I know it’s wrong but I’m addicted to the sex. Is it so wrong to continue? Who are we hurting if no one finds out?2. Ever since I had a baby, sex is painful for me. It’s making me dread sex. I don’t want to talk to my doctor because I’m too embarrassed.3. I think I’m asexual, and I don’t want to be. I wish that I wanted to have sex as much as my friends do. Am I really asexual or am I just afraid to be intimate? How do you tell the difference?And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex.Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off!See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25 Maj 202126min