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18 Nov 20221h 3min

Nir Eyal, WSJ Bestselling Author of "Hooked" and "Indistractable." Investor, Consultant, and Public Speaker NirAndFar.com "Indistractable provides a framework that will deliver the focus you need to get results." —James Clear, author of Atomic Habits "If you value your time, your focus, or your relationships, this book is essential reading. I'm putting these ideas into practice." —Jonathan Haidt, author of The Righteous Mind NATIONAL BESTSELLER WINNER OF THE OUTSTANDING WORKS OF LITERATURE (OWL) AWARD INCLUDED IN THE TOP 5 BEST PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY AUDIBLE INCLUDED IN THE TOP 20 BEST BUSINESS AND LEADERSHIP BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY AMAZON FEATURED IN THE AMAZON BOOK REVIEW NEWSLETTER, JANUARY 2020 GOODREADS BEST SCIENCE & TECHNOLOGY OF 2019 FINALIST You sit down at your desk to work on an important project, but a notification on your phone interrupts your morning. Later, as you're about to get back to work, a colleague taps you on the shoulder to chat. At home, screens get in the way of quality time with your family. Another day goes by, and once again, your most important personal and professional goals are put on hold. What would be possible if you followed through on your best intentions? What could you accomplish if you could stay focused? What if you had the power to become "indistractable?" International bestselling author, former Stanford lecturer, and behavioral design expert, Nir Eyal, wrote Silicon Valley's handbook for making technology habit-forming. Five years after publishing Hooked, Eyal reveals distraction's Achilles' heel in his groundbreaking new book. In Indistractable, Eyal reveals the hidden psychology driving us to distraction. He describes why solving the problem is not as simple as swearing off our devices: Abstinence is impractical and often makes us want more. Eyal lays bare the secret of finally doing what you say you will do with a four-step, research-backed model. Indistractable reveals the key to getting the best out of technology, without letting it get the best of us. Inside, Eyal overturns conventional wisdom and reveals: • Why distraction at work is a symptom of a dysfunctional company culture—and how to fix it • What really drives human behavior and why "time management is pain management" • Why your relationships (and your sex life) depend on you becoming indistractable • How to raise indistractable children in an increasingly distracting world Empowering and optimistic, Indistractable provides practical, novel techniques to control your time and attention—helping you live the life you really want.

17 Nov 202246min

Brett McKay, Thriller and Suspense Author Brettmckaybooks.com After an unexpected turn flushes his chosen career down the toilet, Dex Sanders is struggling to make ends meet as a used car salesman. Despite the drudgery of the job, he manages to put on a brave face for his wife, Reagan, and their two boys, until the day an unsettling encounter with a stranger coincides with a mysterious package appearing on their doorstep. Later that night, Dex and his family are abducted by a group of armed men and taken to an underground bunker, where Dex is tortured. When Dex can’t answer any of their odd questions, the strangers conclude they’ve nabbed the wrong guy, and the entire family is marked for execution. With the clock ticking, Dex must free his family and retrieve the strange box that seems to hold the answers. But doing so means running from relentless killers, uncovering the truth behind an evil as old as time, and stopping a supernatural power that threatens the entire world.

16 Nov 202252min

Out of the FOG, into the CLEAR; Journaling to Help You Heal from Toxic Relationships by Shannon Petrovich In the FOG (Fear, Obligation, and Guilt) of a narcissistic, abusive, or other toxic relationship, feelings of paralysis, anxiety, depression, confusion, disorientation, not knowing who you are anymore, or how you got to this dark place in your life, are as terrifying and mystifying as ocean fog. The FOG crept into your relationship so stealthily that you didn’t notice the dramatic swings from love-bombing to devaluing, the constant pressures, the lies, the gaslighting, the flashes of anger, all of it was just a bit of water vapor that was easily dismissed. But over the months, or years, the FOG set in. Toxic relationships are not an act of nature like ocean fog; they are the result of intentional tactics of manipulation, and control. This FOG is not going to just lift. Nothing will change until you change it. So how do you find your bearings, push past this paralysis, clear away your vision, begin to heal the trauma, and rebuild your life? The insights, strategies, and journal prompts in this book are designed to help you sail through the FOG and into the CLEAR. This book is packed with information including; Changing your negative internal self-talk to transform the cycles of depression, self-blame, despair, and hopelessness, into self-encouragement, hope, progress and self-compassion Understanding trauma-bonding and how to untangle this unhealthy attachment Boundaries; how to create and maintain them with people who don’t respect them Placating, people-pleasing, and peacekeeping, and how to stop undermining yourself Finding clarity, staying focused on reality, and letting go of the gaslighting Leaving emotionally as well as physically Rebuilding your sense of self, and creating healthy self-care strategies And so much more It is possible to deal with and heal from toxic relationships, and this book will help you find your way. Welcome aboard, You can do this!

15 Nov 20221h 4min

Unreported: Domestic Abuse is an Unreported Crime, and Learning to L.I.V.E. free is a journey... by Ms. Veera Mahajan UNREPORTED is a book for increasing awareness about domestic abuse. Through amazing real stories it provides a step by step guide for finding your way to freedom.

14 Nov 202248min

Elon’s missteps are not only alienating advertisers, even worse, now he’s costing them billions in stock valuations, likely prompting a new slate of lawsuits and damages. He continues to almost daily make snowballing errors into an avalanche of failures of what may become the worst acquisition of all time next to the Time Warner deal. As I wrote about in my new book Beacons of Leadership, I talk about the challenges of taking over companies and pulling them back from the brink of bankruptcy as I have successfully. Why is everything going wrong for Elon? Well its a few things: 1. Operating from Ego. Elon has been operating in an ego state where he believes his own reputation and swagger is impenetrable. Ego got him into this mess. Ego had him into lording around in Twitter to self-indulge his ego to the point of committing to buying it for a figure far beyond its worth at the top of the market. His ego believes he can buy and fix anything and in doing so he convinced himself he could easily fix Twitter and now he’s entered a gauntlet of failures that are compounding. Sadly, many people worship money and people who make money and regard billionaires as infallible business gods. Billionaires assume that their achievements, sometimes involving luck, means they can solve the world’s problems. Books have been written about how many times they fail and actually make the world worse. Most CEOs know you shouldn’t make a brash ego, vanity purchase and the boards are there to regulate that. It appears that many of Elon’s advisors on the deal were some from the political right who may have sought to encourage him to buy it for their interests rather than on the merits of the financials. If you’ve seen the text messages from the deal now released in a lawsuit, it was awful advice he was getting from people willing to sacrifice him for their gain. 2. Overpaying at the top of an economic market with clouds looming. Again overpaying by ego. He contracted to buy Twitter at the top of the market, thinking by ego he could fix anything. Shortly after, market corrections lowered the value of the company. It became clear he was buying a company anywhere 2 to 3 times its valuation. Then he attempted to break the deal and could not. He blindly ignored the coming recessionary conditions coming as the Federal Reserves tightened the economy. Now the scenario looks even worse as all tech companies took a massive stock dive. Most likely if he would have waited till now, Twitter stock price valuation would be around 7-10 billion, meaning he’s now overpaid by 4-5 times the value. 3. NEVER PANIC EARLY. On my podcast, The Chris Voss Show Podcast, we had Apollo 13’s Fred Haise on to talk about the astronauts’ training and survival in the snowballing failures of the mission that had their lives on the line. The title of the book is from NASA’s training: NEVER PANIC EARLY. In his NASA training, it taught them that panicking will escalate problems and even amplify other failures. They go through thousands of hours of problem solving testing to teach them not to panic, but to METHODICALLY, rationally problem solve. Even in the face of death, which is itself a whole new panic potential. Again, from my book Beacons of Leadership, bailing out failing companies is a DIFFERENT skill set than building them. Elon is used to slowly, methodically building, block by block, testing, failing small experiments in a business. Since his usual business’ are startups, it’s all “up,” the sky is the limit, plenty of runway time. Conversely, when you are trying to pull a company out of descent to its death, it’s a much different game, as many times you are up against the wall, out of time, and the gun of bankruptcy is pressed up against your head. Downward spiral is the rule of every day and you can see the ground coming up at you, which is daunting. Usually, your destination is inevitable. You’re just fighting the odds.

13 Nov 202216min

Personality and Power: Builders and Destroyers of Modern Europe by Ian Kershaw How far can a single leader alter the course of history? From one of the leading historians of twentieth-century Europe and the author of the definitive biography of Hitler, Personality and Power is a masterful reckoning with how character conspired with opportunity to create the modern age’s uniquely devastating despots—and how and why other countries found better paths. The modern era saw the emergence of individuals who had command over a terrifying array of instruments of control, persuasion and death. Whole societies were reshaped and wars were fought, often with a merciless contempt for the most basic norms. At the summit of these societies were leaders whose personalities somehow enabled them to do whatever they wished, regardless of the consequences for others. Ian Kershaw’s new book is a compelling, lucid and challenging attempt to understand these rulers, whether those operating on the widest stage (Lenin, Stalin, Hitler, Mussolini) or with a more national impact (Tito, Franco). What was it about these leaders, and the times in which they lived, that allowed them such untrammelled and murderous power? And what brought that era to an end? In a contrasting group of profiles—from Churchill to de Gaulle, Adenauer to Gorbachev and Thatcher to Kohl)—Kershaw uses his exceptional skills as an iconic historian to explore how strikingly different figures wielded power.

12 Nov 202246min

The Future Is Analog: How to Create a More Human World by David Sax In The Future Is Analog, David Sax points out that the onset of the pandemic instantly gave us the digital universe we’d spent so long anticipating. Instant communication, online shopping, virtual everything. It didn’t take long to realize how awful it was to live in this promised future. We craved real experiences, relationships, and spaces and got back to real life as quickly and often as we could. In chapters exploring work, school, religion, and more, this book asks pointed questions: Is our future inevitably digital? Can we reject the downsides of digital technology without rejecting change? Can we innovate not for the sake of productivity but for the good of our social and cultural lives? Can we build a future that serves us as humans, first and foremost? This is a manifesto for a different kind of change. We can spend our creativity and money on building new gadgets—or we can spend them on new ways to be together and experience the world, to bake bread, and climb mountains. All we need is the clarity to choose which future we want.

11 Nov 202246min