165 A Concise Explanation of Avoidant and Ambivalent Attachment
I dive into a detailed explanation of avoidant and ambivalent attachment. I explain why and how a child develops each of these insecure attachment styles. I then outline how you are supposed to know i...
2 Dec 202429min
164 Engaging Your Cultural/Collective Story
The fundamental premise of story work is that your past story is affecting your present life. This is just as true for your collective story as it is for your individual story. Your present day to day...
18 Nov 202432min
163 Implicit Memory: What It Is and Why It Matters
Memory is the way in which a past experience affects how the mind will function in the present. There are two layers of memory: explicit and implicit. There are two key attributes of implicit memory t...
28 Okt 202425min
162 Triangulation: What It Is and Why It Matters
Triangulation occurs when a parent requires a child to function as an emotional adult by meeting the parent's adult needs and wants. Were you required to give, give, give to your parent, or was your p...
14 Okt 202440min
161 Exploring Your Sexual Story With Curiosity and Kindness
Sexuality is an emotionally charged topic. Period. But when you are talking about sexuality for people with a history of trauma, you are stepping into terrain where angels fear to tread. However, if G...
30 Sep 202435min
160 The Weight of Religious and Spiritual Expectations with Reid Zeller
I am joined today by therapist and friend Reid Zeller who shares a story about egging cars when he was 16. Behind every story is a backstory. The backstory includes the nature of the environment we gr...
29 Juli 202440min
159 Revisiting the Big Six: What You Needed from Your Parents
When you were a child, you were deeply dependent on your primary caretakers. This means that the development of your brain was contingent upon the level of care and kindness in your family environment...
15 Juli 202441min
158 The Critical Relationship Between Attachment and Affect Regulation
If you have difficulty regulating your emotion, there is a reason for that! No one comes out of the womb with the ability to regulate their affect. The way you develop the neurobiological structures t...
1 Juli 202430min
