U Up?

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Mars 202131min

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Mars 20211h 18min

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Feb 202116min

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Feb 20211h 22min

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Feb 202126min

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Feb 20211h 23min

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Feb 202147min

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Feb 20211h 4min