70: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION is not MISCOMMUNICATION

We’re back with another episode of our T&A Alphabet Series!

These episodes were originally delivered as live trainings on Mondays inside our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, and over the last few months we’ve been uploading them to all major podcast platforms.

Today’s episode is all about the letter M — and it’s a good one.
We’re diving into: M is for the 5 Ways to Make Sure Your COMMUNICATION Isn’t MISCOMMUNICATION.

In this episode, we explore:

• The core components of successful communication.
• How to break old or unhelpful communication habits and replace them with patterns that actually work.
• Why getting “heated” or “upset” is valuable information — uncomfortable, yes, but often pointing us toward something meaningful to unpack after the moment passes.
• Active listening: how to become better listeners and how to recognize when we aren’t.
• Communication models we love, including the Interactional Model.
• Practical, real-life examples of how to become a clearer, more effective communicator.
• How to approach more challenging conversations and invite true dialogue.
• The importance of being clear, honest, and direct.
• What happens when we hold things in instead of expressing them.
• How trust and rapport are built through communication.
• How your beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions shape the way you show up in conversation.
• Progressive Communication: what it is, and how to use it to move conversations forward instead of repeating the same loops.
• What to do when someone comes into a conversation already feeling defensive.
• And how to use “breaks” effectively.

We also share an analogy that highlights the difference between genuine communication and miscommunication, plus a personal example of a moment between us where emotions were high and things got a little “heated” — and what we learned from it.

Want to hear T&A live?Join us on December 10, 2025 for Reconnect Wednesday at the Mermaid Lounge just outside Toronto. Learn more about the Mermaid Lounge at mermaidlounge.ca. Grab tickets at thexclub.net/event_description.php?event=452

Show Resources:

• Feeld Dating Site - https://feeld.co/
• Dr. Amy Corey - Evolution of Human Communication - From Theory to Practice - article - https://www.scribd.com/document/535619793/Communication-By-Dr-Amy-M-Corey
• Looking for support working through your communication patterns or other issues? Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠ or book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠