46: Why I Stay Up Late Even Though I Know Better

aka: The Identity Crisis Hiding in Your Sleep Schedule

You’re not bad at routines. You’re starving for yourself.

This episode is a raw, real-time reflection on why we trade sleep for slivers of freedom—and what it costs us as parents, partners, and people trying to feel like ourselves again. We’re talking sleep sabotage, revenge bedtime procrastination, and the emotional tug-of-war between being responsible and being free.

00:02 – Why this episode’s late & what that teaches about presence vs. planning

01:30 – The truth: I teach regulation but still sabotage my own sleep

03:40 – What sleep debt actually does to your emotional regulation

04:20 – The 11PM me vs. the real me—chaos, cravings, and content plans

05:45 – Why bedtime feels like the last taste of freedom

06:40 – What I’m really grieving when I avoid sleep

07:50 – Journal of Behavioral Sleep Medicine: revenge bedtime defined

08:40 – Self-awareness: what’s the real need behind the delay?

09:38 – Reframing routines: not losing the night, but winning the morning

10:50 – Fortitude = Choosing rest as resistance

11:50 – Transformation: rewriting the script of what rest means

12:50 – Harvard Med stat: sleep loss reduces emotion recognition by 30%

💭 SHIFT Rx (Tuesday) → Sleep isn't a luxury; it's our nervous system's non-negotiable

🎙️ Guest Interview (Thursday) → Pediatric Sleep Coach Allison Egidi joins us for a powerful conversation about our little ones' sleep habits

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