59: GUEST | From Numbing to Nourishing: Breaking Free from Habits That Hurt with Anna Shilina

What if the habits you think are “healthy” are actually keeping you stuck?

In this intimate and electrifying conversation, Davina sits down with Habit Freedom author and human behavior specialist Anna Shilina to unpack how trauma shows up in productivity, drinking, “earning” sugar binges, and losing trust in ourselves. From growing up in an immigrant household and escaping into books, to spiraling into alcohol and reclaiming her light, Anna shares the five core relationships that shape our habits and our healing.

If you've ever said “I deserve this” right before self-sabotage or struggled to turn awareness into action, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re talking identity, intergenerational healing, inner child reparenting, and how to rewire your relationship with discomfort, the present moment, and yourself.

⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:

00:04 – From childhood survival to academic addiction

02:00 – The real cost of numbing, even when it looks “productive”

04:48 – Alcohol as a coping strategy and the slow unraveling of self-trust

10:00 – Growing up with personal development (and what it hid)

17:45 – The lonely middle between rock bottom and healing

26:30 – The illusion of “deserving” what harms us

33:40 – Emotional regulation, self-sabotage, and why “better” feels like losing

45:00 – The five relationships of Habit Freedom (discomfort, light, now, self, others)

51:00 – How microdosing numbness robs us of our potential

59:00 – Inner child work and breaking inherited patterns

1:06:00 – Anger, sadness, and why parenting is the ultimate trigger and teacher

1:12:00 – SHIFTing from reactive parenting to relational healing

📲 Connect with Anna Shilina

• 📘 Habit Freedom – Available in digital & audio: habitfreedom.com
• 💬 DM her on Instagram: @annashilina
• 💡 Join the Habit Freedom Mastermind

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