#86: "I want them to just know. I don't want to have to ask."
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#86: "I want them to just know. I don't want to have to ask."

In this episode, we explore why this longing is so common, especially for women who learned early on to minimise their needs, stay attuned to others, and keep the peace.

We’ll unpack how the desire for someone to just know is often rooted in a fear of vulnerability, the fear of being seen, needing something, or risking disappointment. And why avoiding asking doesn’t actually protect us… it keeps our real needs unmet.

In this conversation, we’ll explore:

  • What’s really underneath the belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count”

  • How self-abandonment and people-pleasing keep us silent

  • Why asking is not neediness, but self-responsibility

  • The difference between longing for attunement and avoiding vulnerability

  • How reclaiming your voice creates the possibility of being truly met

This episode isn’t about doing more emotional labour.
It’s about learning how to name what you need and allowing others the chance to meet you there.


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#83: Letting go of someone we still love

#83: Letting go of someone we still love

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#82: What avoidant people need to develop more security in relationships

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#81: What anxiously attached people need to develop more security in relationships

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#80: Can a relationship be too triggering to heal in?

#80: Can a relationship be too triggering to heal in?

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#79: How to stop settling for POTENTIAL

#79: How to stop settling for POTENTIAL

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#78: How to transform your relationships in 2026!

#78: How to transform your relationships in 2026!

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#77: How your mindset shapes your DATING experience!

#77: How your mindset shapes your DATING experience!

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#76: Perfectionism in Relationships & Dating

#76: Perfectionism in Relationships & Dating

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