Episode 28: What Do You Really Want? Inner Truths

In this episode, Sarah asks the question she returns to over and over again—in her own life and inside the MindBody Behavior community:

What do you really want?

Not what sounds responsible. Not what fits the timeline. Not what looks good on paper. Not what makes you appear like the “good” professional, partner, parent, or friend.

What do you actually want?

Sarah unpacks the difference between conditional desires (the ones shaped by society, family, praise, and fear of disappointment) and intrinsic desires (the ones that feel alive, expansive, and deeply yours). She explores why so many high-achieving people hit goals and feel relief instead of fulfillment—and how to tell whether you’re moving toward something meaningful or just running away from something uncomfortable.

If you’ve been feeling apathetic, stuck, or quietly unfulfilled—even though your life “looks good” from the outside—this episode is your invitation to get radically honest.

In This Episode Sarah Discusses…

• The difference between conditional wants (outside-in) and intrinsic wants (inside-out)
• Why achieving the “right” goals can still leave you feeling empty
• The body-based cue: does this desire feel expansive or contracted?
• The question: “If no one ever knew I did this, would I still want it?”
• How we confuse clarity with certainty—and why certainty isn’t required
• The permission trap: whose approval are you still waiting for?
• Why arbitrary timelines (“by this age I should…”) quietly run your life
• Moving toward something vs. running away from something—and how they can look identical
• Her own evolution around money, financial freedom, and releasing shame
• Why dreaming feels hard when you’ve trained yourself not to want too much

Quotes from This Episode

1. “What do you really want—not what feels responsible—but what do you actually want?”
2. “Relief means I finally did what I was supposed to do. Aliveness feels like expansion.”
3. “Clarity comes from moving, not from standing there trying to think harder.”
4. “You don’t need certainty. You need honesty.”
5. “You don’t need permission. You’re allowed to want what you want.”

Your Action Step

• Pick one area of your life—work, relationships, health, lifestyle—and ask yourself:
• If no one would ever know I did this… would I still want it?
• Notice what happens in your body when you imagine having it. Expansion? Contraction? Relief? Aliveness?
• Then ask: Am I moving toward something meaningful—or just trying to escape something else?
• You don’t need a five-year plan.
• You don’t need certainty.
• You don’t need permission.
• You just need to start telling yourself the truth.

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