SS 261: Mistakes Happen - Processing After Boundary Violations or Safer Sex Failures

SS 261: Mistakes Happen - Processing After Boundary Violations or Safer Sex Failures

It's pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you'd talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real world can cause some serious "knocked on your ass" moments. Tonight we talk about how to process boundary violations, safer sex failures, and the importance of compassion throughout the process.

Dylan relayed his recent protection failure story, consisting of a condom sliding off during sex resulting in condomless ejaculation. While the story and the people involved were incredibly sexy, the mistakes made (delaying telling a partner, processing the failure as offense, lack of perspective on the risk of playing with others) resulted in an otherwise pleasant encounter into something to suffer through.

Cooper makes the point that something will happen over the course of a swinging lifetime, and that you should treat others how you'd want to be treated if you were the one who'd "screwed up" somehow, that compassion in necessary because everyone is hurting when there's no intent to harm.

The group moves into discussing "odd-man out" scenarios in which (usually) the male half of a couple who ends up not playing has a choice on whether to be mopey and whiny about it, or whether to enjoy his partner's pleasure and the atmosphere, and to potentially live to play again later in the night. Dylan once again relays a story of not taking his usual care to see the "odd-man out" partner before joining his wife in a threesome, and speaks of some real regret in not doing so after seeing a well meaning person hurting.


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Today's podcast featured music by:

Rich Edwards - For You (featuring Park Avenue)

Richard Caddock, WRLD, Nitro Fun, Slips & Slurs & Subtact - Break The Silence

Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas

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SS 168: We Are All In Charge in the Swinging Lifestyle

SS 168: We Are All In Charge in the Swinging Lifestyle

We're all evangelists for our lifestyles. We're not trying to convince people to try it out, we're there to offer our own experiences, to story tell, to educate when people ask for more information, and when people are ready to hop in, at least for us swingers, we all seem to make the same mistake. "Also, women run the lifestyle!" We unpack the sentiment, the history, and the reality behind the statement and the contention that the lifestyle is female run in swinging in tonight's podcast.     Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

7 Elo 20141h 7min

SS 167: Talking Dirty - Turning Your Filthy Thoughts Into Naughty Words

SS 167: Talking Dirty - Turning Your Filthy Thoughts Into Naughty Words

A couple months ago we tackled the topic of flirting, and how it's rather essential to sexy interaction, rather exponentially expanded for non-monogamy. Tonight on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast we're going to turn that flirty talk into sexy talk and discuss talking dirty: how, when, why, and what's too much. We also take the time to answer an extended listener voicemail about equal rights, gay marriage, and the civil rights movement.   Want to help our friends at Burlesque Toy Shop get their first brick and mortar boutique off the ground in Philadelphia? Head over to their indiegogo campaign and pledge. Some great pledge prizes to be had, including a LELO Mona 2 for far less than you'd buy it anywhere else. If buying a product from their online store, save 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

30 Heinä 20141h 28min

SS 166: Gang Bang The Mailbag 15 - Cheating Males & Unicorns, Girl Girl Play, One Penis Policy, & Bad Swinging Experiences

SS 166: Gang Bang The Mailbag 15 - Cheating Males & Unicorns, Girl Girl Play, One Penis Policy, & Bad Swinging Experiences

Another day, another gang bang of the old (and now thoroughly satisfied) mailbag.  We get a response from a listener about our DP episode, as well as an eye opening picture (which we refuse to share!) We discuss speaking up in the moment, solo cheating males, unicorns, girl girl only play, the one penis policy, stretch marks, and bad swinging experiences.

23 Heinä 20141h 12min

SS 165: Gang Bang The Mailbag 14 - Swinging & Fairness, Fluid Bonding, & Oral Herpes Disclosure

SS 165: Gang Bang The Mailbag 14 - Swinging & Fairness, Fluid Bonding, & Oral Herpes Disclosure

We're back, and we gang bang the ever willing mailbag fillled with your questions! We talk about chasing the white whale, a potential fluid bonding statute of limitations, cold sores (hsv1) and kissing protocol, and swinging & fairness. Dylan also talks about the "unfuckables".   Visit the Burlesque Toyshop to pick up the equipment to exercise your kegels for stronger orgasms while saving 20% when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Pick up the Je Joue Ami Balls and start your workout now!! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

16 Heinä 20141h 9min

SS 164: Getting Naked on Camera: Taking Nude Pictures with Guest Elle Chase (Lady Cheeky)

SS 164: Getting Naked on Camera: Taking Nude Pictures with Guest Elle Chase (Lady Cheeky)

In many ways, swinging is a lot like regular online dating, searching through profiles, reaching out via email. In one way, it's not so much. Naked pictures. Oh, sure, regular online dating involves a lot of naked pictures these days too, but it's rare that you see someone naked BEFORE you decide to contact them. The value of good naked pics on a swinger profile is very high, and so tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're talking about taking them, and posing for them, and we're joined by the amazing Elle Chase, the Lady Cheeky who has been distracting us with her wonderfully curated porn tumblr for years. We talk about why many swing profiles don't have photos of men on them and when they do, they're just cock pics! We talk about body image issues, privacy / online photo issues, being prudish on camera, and what if any responsibility we have after a breakup relating to nude photos.   Check out Elle Chase's websites. For porn head to Lady Cheeky, for education Smut for Smarties, to hire Elle, check out her professional site, and her new LA Academy of Sex Education! Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get your kink on with a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the Sex & Mischief line with The Silky Rope Kit, Silky Sash Restraints, The Solid Ball Gag, and The Spread the Love Bar! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

2 Heinä 20141h 3min

SS 163: Swinging For Dummies VI: The First Date

SS 163: Swinging For Dummies VI: The First Date

Tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going back to basics for another episode of Swinging For Dummies. In the series thus far we’ve talked about realizing you’re interested in non-monogamy, talking to your partner, group sex, sexy vacations, and swinging websites. But how about that ever important first date. How to prepare, how to engage, how to transition to playtime, and how to make sure there’s a second date.   Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out the AMAZING nJoy Pure Wand to stimulate your gspot or prostate, or a friend's! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

26 Kesä 20141h 14min

SS 162: Don't Forget To Buckle Your Condom - Eroticizing Barriers

SS 162: Don't Forget To Buckle Your Condom - Eroticizing Barriers

We're all well aware of the risks inherent with sex, and we don't always like to use those barriers that keep us safe. From gloves and dental dams to the almighty condom, eroticizing barriers is what helps make them part of our sexuality and safety instead of "this thing we have to do." Tonight we're joined by Melissa White, CEO of our favorite online condom company Lucky Bloke to talk about how to make safer sex sexier.   Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out Lelo Ella and combine it with condoms to explore both sides of this wonderful toy! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

18 Kesä 20141h 5min

SS 161: Ending The Sexual Dark Age On The Swingset

SS 161: Ending The Sexual Dark Age On The Swingset

Here at Life on the Swingset we've had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven't gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about.   Visit the Burlesque Toyshop and get a 20% discount when you use the promo code swingburlesque at checkout! Check out The Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit to get your pegging adventure started! Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Come with us for The Swingset Takes Desire '14! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.

11 Kesä 20141h 11min

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