Chatting with Cara - The Relationship with Food Podcast26 Syys 2025

Saying yes when you mean no.

This week on Chatting with Cara, I’m diving into one of the biggest challenges I see with my clients (and one I’ve struggled with myself) - people pleasing.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying “yes” when every part of you wanted to say “no,” sacrificing your time, energy and happiness just to keep the peace, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I’ll walk you through where people pleasing really comes from, how it affects both you and others, and most importantly what you can do to break free from it so you can live with more honesty, integrity and joy.

In this episode, I cover –

Why people pleasing is especially common for women (and how society conditions us to comply).
The hidden roots of people pleasing: approval seeking, fear of rejection and conditional love.
Why saying “yes” when you mean “no” actually harms both you and the other person.
A memorable (slightly crude!) analogy that explains why false “pleasing” never helps in the long run.
How to reframe “no” as honesty, authenticity and integrity.
Practical strategies to start saying “no” with confidence including the power of silence and resisting the urge to over-explain.
How to build awareness of who you people please most and in what situations.
Why celebrating your small wins rewires your brain to see that saying “no” is not only safe, it’s liberating.

If you’ve been overcommitting, over-giving or quietly resenting how much you do for others, this episode will help you step back into alignment with yourself and free up more time for the things that truly matter to you.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs to hear it and connect with me on Instagram or Facebook at @Coachingwithcara.

If you would like further indepth 1-1 support then book a life coaching consultation where I will talk you through how I can stop you being a people pleaser, once and for all.

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