126.What I Want My Kids to Inherit From Me

My kids aren't waiting for me to teach them something.

They're already learning.

From how I respond when I'm tired.
From how I treat my wife.
From whether I look up when they're talking to me.
From how I handle conflict.
From the things I repeat every single day.

And that realization changed the way I think about being a dad.

In this episode, I share five things I'm intentionally doing in my own family:

1. Be there. Be present.

2. Be the leader. Don't let their energy set yours.

3. Model it, because you're the mirror.

4. Say what you want, not what you don't want.

5. Say the same words every single day.

This isn't about being a perfect parent.

It's about becoming more aware of the things we're already handing down.

Because most of us inherited a formula from our own parents. They inherited one too. And most of them were simply doing the best they could with what they had.

Now it's our turn to decide what moves forward.

And what stops with us.

The question I'm leaving you with:

What's one thing you want your kids to carry from you and are you living it or just saying it?

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Chapters

00:00 What Are Your Kids Learning From You?

01:00 The Words I Say to My Kids Every Day

02:30 Why I Became Intentional About Parenting

04:34 Tip #1: Be There, Be Present

07:29 Tip #2: Be the Leader

12:05 Tip #3: Model It, Because You're the Mirror

16:22 Tip #4: Say What You Want, Not What You Don't

18:47 Tip #5: The Same Words Every Day

21:35 The Belief I Want My Kids to Carry

22:13 What Do You Want Your Kids to Inherit?

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Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.