EP344 - Breaking Bedroom Barriers: A Guide to Sexual Communication

Welcome to episode 103 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Laurie Betito about female sexual desires. In this episode, we discuss factors that may lead a woman to lose her sexual desire and the steps she must take to improve her intimate relationships.   Dr. Laurie is a clinical psychologist with a specialty in sex therapy, and has been a practicing psychotherapist for close to 30 years. For the last 27 years she has been doing radio and television, dispensing sex and relationship advice.  She is a regular contributor to various magazines, newspapers and television shows. She is the host of a nightly Canadian syndicated call in show called Passion, where she discusses issues related to sexuality with her listeners. Dr. Laurie is also President of the Sexual Health Network of Quebec  and Past President of the Canadian Sex Research Forum.   Dr. Laurie is the author of The Sex Bible for People Over 50. She is also the Director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center, an online sexual health information platform.   Dr. Laurie has also done two TEDx talks on the subject of sexuality   In this episode, you will hear:  Common myths of female sexual desire What causes some women to lose interest in sex? Differences in men and women when it comes to sexual desire? Human response cycle and new research on responsive model of desire Approaches in cultivating sexual desires Why some women fake orgasms?   Resources  www.drlaurie.com www.cjad.com https://youtu.be/lnigGtrwAfs https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Joulu 201837min

Welcome to episode 102 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to give five tips to boost your sexual confidence.     In this episode, you will hear:     Ways to improve yourself image and be comfortable with your own body   Modifying your definition of great sex   Improving your sexual techniques and practices  Understanding the need for your own pleasure and knowing it’s ok to masturbate   The important of exercise in relation to sex     Resources  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Joulu 201826min

Welcome to episode 101 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Herman who speaks to me about common causes of sexual pain for women, the extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues and exercises women can do to help prevent injuries.    Dr. Hollis Herman (Holly) has been a physical therapist for 43 years. Her passion is musculoskeletal function and dysfunction in Functional Health in the LGBT community and is Board Certified as an Orthopedic, Women’s Health, Biofeedback Specialist. Holly is an AASECT certified Sexuality Counselor and an ISSWSH Sexuality Fellow.  She has pioneered physical therapy evaluation and treatment of problems that involve urologic, colorectal, obstetric, gynecologic, reproductive and sexual medicine.     She maintains a vibrant private practice, HealthyWomen HealthyMen HealthyPeople, in Cambridge, MA, seeing patients in addition to training thousands of health professionals in these areas of health worldwide.    Holly has authored numerous books, book chapters and peer reviewed articles. She has received many grants and awards for her dedication and clinical excellence in physical therapy. Holly co-founded the Herman & Wallace Pelvic Rehabilitation Institute in 2005, though, no longer affiliated. Holly believes all patients deserve the right to be heard, validated, understood and educated in their specific musculoskeletal condition to live a healthy functionally active life.    In this episode, you will hear:     Common causes of sexual pain for women   Knowing when you need to seek medical attention for sexual issues   The extensive role physical therapists have for sexual issues   The course of treatment and services people can expect from a physical therapist   How long treatments usually last   Exercises women can do to help prevent injuries   Where to find a physical therapist right for you       Resources  https://hollyherman.com   https://facebook.com/HWHMeducation   http://www.apta.org  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Joulu 201830min

Welcome to episode 100 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back our very first guest of the podcast; Dr. Albert Wong who speaks to me this time about the challenge’s men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom, how intimacy can be sexually arousing and steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles. Dr. Albert Wong is an Associate Professor and Core Faculty in the Holistic Counseling Psychology Program at JFK University. A former Marshall Scholar, he has longstanding interests in the intersection of performance art, somatics, psychotherapy, and scalable technology. He served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years. He has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and in the book The American Soul Rush. His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He was educated at Princeton, Oxford, and the University of Tennessee and is the recipient of numerous national science awards (Westinghouse Science Talent Scholarship, Goldwater Scholarship). In this episode, you will hear: The challenges men face with their skills, feelings and relationships in the bedroom How sexual performance anxiety and feelings of not being enough are very prevalent with men Understanding, knowing and having an intuition for you and your partner's desires How intimacy can be sexually arousing Working with and overcoming traumatic experiences Understanding people have many different sexual templates Steps that can be taken to help with these internal struggles Resources http://www.dralbertwong.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care  https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Joulu 201839min

Welcome to episode 99 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to talk about the relationship between sex and recreational drugs: alcohol, cannabis, cocaine, MDMA, amphetamines and hallucinogens.     In this episode, you will hear:     The way in which alcohol affects your sexual experience   How aggressive tendencies can be amplified when having sex under the influence of alcohol   How alcohol and cannabis affect sex in very different ways   How some women struggle to concentrate during sex after taking cannabis   The way in which cocaine has a chronic prolonged effect  Reports that suggest many people reach orgasm when coming down from MDMA  The mixed responses people have reported from sex whilst taking amphetamines  How hallucinogens have been known to help with sexual fantasies       Resources  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172    Hingson, R. W., Zha, W., & Weitzman, E. R. (2009). Magnitude of and trends in alcohol-related mortality and morbidity among U.S. college students ages 18–24, 1998–2005. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, s16, 12–20.    Kerr, D. C., Washburn, I. J., Morris, M. K., Lewis, K. A., & Tiberio, S. S. (2015). Event-level associations of marijuana and heavy alcohol use with intercourse and condom use. Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, 76, 733–737.    Parsons, J. T., Vicioso, K. J., Punzalan, J. C., Halkitis, P. N., Kutnick, A., & Velasquez, M. M. (2004). The impact of alcohol use on the sexual scripts of HIV-positive men who have sex with men. Journal of Sex Research, 41, 160–172.    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Marras 201825min

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.     Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible.    Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices.    In this episode, you will hear:     Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender   The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck   The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner   Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them   How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship   How much disclosure is useful around the information of sex?  Recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck      Resources  http://bethluwandi.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/26/rebuilding-sexual-intimacy-after-sexual-betrayal/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Marras 201841min

Welcome to episode 97 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller who talks to us about sexual fantasies, the influence culture has in this area and understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire.     Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.     Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011, and it now receives several million page views per year. He has been interviewed by numerous media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, CNN.com, The Atlantic, The Globe and Mail, and The Sunday Times. He has been named one of 5 "Sexperts" You Need to Follow on Twitter by Men's Health and one of the "modern-day masters of sex" by Nerve. Dr. Lehmiller has appeared on several episodes of the television program Taboo on the National Geographic Channel and has been a guest on numerous podcast and radio shows, including the Savage Lovecast and the NPR programs Radio Times and Airtalk. He is a popular freelance writer, penning columns and op-eds for major publications, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Psychology Today, Politico, and New York Magazine. In addition, the articles he writes on Sex and Psychology have been syndicated on major websites, including Business Insider, Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Thought Catalog.    In this episode, you will hear:     Findings about sexual fantasies Justin’s found from a recent survey   The similar sexual themes that emerged across various age groups   The influence culture has on sexual fantasy   How political leanings can influence sexual fantasy   Understanding the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual desire   Creating emotional safety around fantasies   Learning to communicate with your partner to please each other’s fantasies     Resources  https://sexandpsychology.com    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Marras 201829min

Welcome to episode 96 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Melissa Novak who speaks to us about the underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety, the way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue and learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs.    Melissa Novak a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and Certified Sex Therapist, specializing in the treatment of sexual dysfunction, personality disorders as well as depression and anxiety-related disorders.  She specializes in working with adults, and couples on a variety of issues such as sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, OCD, and PTSD. Melissa has a particular interest in working with those struggling with sexual dysfunction and those concerned about some aspect of their sexual behavior.     In addition to providing individual therapy, Melissa serves as an educator and supervisor within the Chicagoland community and currently teaches as an adjunct professor at the University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration.  She serves as Secretary for the Board of Directors of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).      In this episode, you will hear:     The underlying issues around sexual performance anxiety such as self-doubt  How many people are using uncertified online resources to try and overcome this issue  The way in which our western culture exacerbates this issue   How there is too much pressure on penis size to be the only source of pleasure   How rejection can play a big role around this issue   Learning to be honest with your partner about your sexual desires and needs  What treatment looks like for sexual performance anxiety         Resources  http://www.mntherapies.com    Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Marras 201841min