EP344 - Breaking Bedroom Barriers: A Guide to Sexual Communication

Welcome to episode 111 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lourdes Viado to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Viado speaks to me about open relationships, how they work, the essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path and why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship.   Dr. Lourdes Viado is a depth psychologist, providing psychotherapy for adults in her private practice in Las Vegas NV, as well as mentorship and consulting services to clients world-wide.    She is a Myers-Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI) Certified Practioner and uses a Jungian approach in her work with clients, integrating mindfulness, dream work, shadow work, metaphor, literature, poetry and astrology in her work with clients  She is also the host of the top-rated Women In-Depth Podcast: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women, which has been downloaded over 225,000x in 96 countries and 6 continents.    In this episode, you will hear:     The different types of open relationships   How open relationships are more common than most people realise   What does the fidelity agreement look like?  Questions you should ask yourself before considering opening up your relationship   Understand and process the reasons why you want to open up your relationship   How for some the idea of an open relationship is better than the reality of one  How there is no right or wrong to come to an agreement on an open relationship, each one is entirely unique   The essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path   The importance of open communication and not going down the path of not wanting to know what your partner may or may not be doing  Why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship    Resources  Women In-Depth Podcast  www.lourdesviado.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Helmi 201931min

Welcome to episode 110 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Janet Brito to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Brito speaks to me about why people fake orgasms, the reasons for doing so and ways to break through this issue and have better sex.     Dr. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She is a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and completed her postdoctoral fellowship from the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations.      Dr. Brito has been featured on many outlets, including The Huffington Post, Playboy, Healthline, Women’s Health Magazine, Thrive Global, and Midweek Publications. Her dissertation A phenomenological analysis on infertility in Mexican women living in the United States was recently published in the Revista Interamericana de Psicologia/Interamerican Journal of Psychology.     In this episode, you will hear:     How common is it for people to fake orgasms?   The reasons why someone might fake an orgasm?  The influence that pornography has had on our sexual expectations   Why pornography is not a good resource to shape your sexual template   The need for more stimulation and foreplay to achieve better sex   Why there is no right or wrong way of having sex   Learning to be attentive and focus on your partners needs and desires   Be open and honest with your partner so you can communicate effectively around this issue   Why orgasms can be inconsistent and unreliable   How men are more able to compartmentalize relationship issues from sex     Resources  http://sextherapyhawaii.com  https://www.instagram.com/drjanetbrito   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Helmi 201933min

Welcome to episode 109 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Shannon McHenry, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Shannon speaks to me about working with trauma and sexual assault victims, the challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality and how partners can support their loved ones through this process.    Shannon McHenry, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty focus in childhood trauma, rape and battering, and PTSD. She is a trauma therapist in Los Angeles and works with clients in her offices in Los Feliz and Torrance.     Combining clinical experience with a passion to support women in repairing their relationships with themselves and others, she has supported many to create a long-lasting recovery from destructive behaviors. Call Shannon today to book your first appointment.    If you are struggling with recovery and would like to know more about Shannon’s services, contact her today for a free consultation.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Shannon became interested in working with trauma   The challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality   Physiological responses from trauma survivors  Why victims of sexual might blame themselves and not seek the help they need   How the idea of revealing clothing being the root cause of sexual assaults undermines men’s sophistication and levels of control   The way in which alcohol and other substances can be used as an excuse for sexual assault  Understanding that consenting to one form of sexual interaction doesn’t by default also mean consenting sexual intercourse   What does sex look like for victims in the long term?  How partners can support their loved ones through this process     Resources  https://oasis2care.com/trauma-therapist-torrance/ https://oasis2care.com/trauma/codependency-and-trauma   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Helmi 201931min

Welcome to episode 108 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Patti Britton who speaks to me this time about toxic shame; why are there so many people struggling with this issue? The methods she uses to help overcome toxic shame and working towards sexual self-realization.     Dr. Patti Britton is a Clinical Sexologist, Sexuality Educator and the Pioneer of Sex Coaching with top level credentials.  As a well-respected world leader in sexology, she is an academic, author of 5 books, popular speaker, trainer and workshop leader, and host of over 40 DVDs for couples’ sexual enhancement.     She is a frequent guest on expert summits, national television shows, documentaries, live talk and news radio, and is quoted in magazines, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health.  She has a private practice in Los Angeles area and via Skype globally.     Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of SexCoachU - the world’s premier credentialing and training organization for sex coaching with students in 65 countries and live training events in Europe and USA. With her late partner, Robert Dunlap, she hosted ground-breaking weekly radio podcasts on happy aging, which are archived at https://theboomdoctors.com    In this episode, you will hear:     Why are so many people struggling with sexual shame?  How many people have leftover issues from childhood around this issue   Methods and ways Dr. Patti uses to help remove toxic shame   The importance of focusing on both the psychological and physiological aspects of sexual shame   How toxic shame is systemic and endemic   The benefits of SAR training - Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring  The stigma and shame that still surrounds alternative sexualities   Working towards sexual self-realization       Resources  https://sexcoachu.com   https://dppattibritton.com     Episode 14 with Dr. Patti - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/04/11/sexual-empowerment-with-dr-patti-britton/     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Tammi 201939min

Welcome to episode 107 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am very excited to have returning to the podcast Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST. Wendy was my guest on episode 35 and joins me again to speak to me about porn addiction, the consequences of using porn compulsively, how mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery and sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction.   Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns. She is the coauthor, with her husband Larry Maltz of The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography. Wendy is also author of the recovery classic The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, coauthor of Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies, and the editor of two poetry anthologies that celebrate healthy sexual intimacy. Wendy’s popular educational website, www.HealthySex.com, provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy.   In this episode, you will hear:     Is porn usage problematic?  The consequences of using porn compulsively   How we weren’t ready as a society for the amount of porn the internet provided  How between 8-15% of people who use porn will go on to develop a problem with it  Steps that can be taken to deal with unhealthy porn use  Recovering from porn addiction   Hearing how a listener’s husband went through the process of recovery  Ongoing side effects; E.G - Not being able to have sex without images of porn  How mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery   Sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction       Resources  http://www.HealthySex.com    https://www.amazon.com/Porn-Trap-Essential-Overcoming-Pornography/dp/0061231878  https://www.amazon.com/The-Sexual-Healing-Journey-Survivors/dp/0062130730   https://www.amazon.com/Private-Thoughts-Exploring-Womens-Fantasies-ebook/dp/B00A8SKN6K     Episode 35 - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/05/healing-from-sexual-assault-with-wendy-maltz-lcsw/     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Tammi 201948min

Welcome to episode 106 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Richmond who speaks to me about she became interested in sex tech, developments happening with teledildonic and the pros and cons of using sexbots.     Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). She is one of North America’s leading sex therapists serving Hollywood’s elite as well as prominent corporate clientele, nationally and internationally. With offices in New York, Los Angeles and Portland, Dr. Holly is a trusted authority on sexual health issues with a significant media following.     She is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and Women’s Health. She is a sought-after consultant in the sex tech industry and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and entertainment. Dr. Holly’s ‘Next-Sex’ platform and forthcoming book reflect her keen interest in the exploration of sex and technology, and how they work together as human sexuality evolves in the 21st century.    A little reflection….    Why is sextech so exciting right now? This is our first step into somatic (body-based) technology. We are moving from something we hold to something we wear—the technology, and thus our sexuality, is more a piece of us than ever. Immersive technologies like VR, AR, MR, teledildonics and intimate companions facilitate experiential knowledge and connection through kinesthetic learning and eye contact that engenders competency, agency and mastery. People can try things with immersive technologies they may not try IRL. I believe my job, maybe even my mission, is to communicate to any industry that is interested in relationships, sex and intimate connection that they can’t miss this opportunity for enormous change and positive influence. How we connect intimately and sexually with others as well as ourselves will be dramatically different in five years, and astonishing, almost certainly mind-blowing in 20.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Holly became interested in sex tech   Developments happening with teledildonic   Using sexbots as part of sexual health treatment   The pros and cons of using sexbots   Understanding that sexbots are an addition and not replacement to your sex life   How can we use healthy eroticism in our sex lives?   Ways in which defects can affect couples’ agreements and relationships   Best places to start when researching into using teledildonic          Resources  http://drhollyrichmond.com  http://www.next-sex.com   https://venturebeat.com/2018/06/02/10-ambitious-predictions-for-how-vr-ar-will-shape-our-world/    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Tammi 201931min

Welcome to episode 105 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW who speaks to me about sensate focus in sex therapy, what sensate focus entails and how sensate focus touch can also help with pain.     Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, is co-director of the Institute for Sexual & Relationship Therapy & Training with Dr. Constance Avery Clark.Linda is a speaker, writer, adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University in St. Louis, and was formerly a research and clinical associate at Masters & Johnson Institute.     Linda Weiner is a diplomate in clinical social work, a certified diplomate in sexology (American Board of Sexology) and is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists as a sex therapist, supervisor, and CE provider.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Linda became interested in the specific techniques of sensate focus in sex therapy  What sensate focus entails   How modern busy lives have made it unrealistic to achieve sexual satisfaction   The way in which mindfulness relates to this issue  How sensate focus touch can also help with pain   Modifications and ways, you can practice sensate focus on your own   Understanding that sensate focus is not a prelude to sex    Resources  Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: An Illustrated Manual  sextherapiststlouis@gmail.com  www.sextherapiststlouis.com  www.ISRTT.org    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

8 Tammi 201932min

In this episode of Sexology, Dr. Nazanin Moali talks about the importance of setting up sex resolutions, why people’s resolutions’ fail and what are some of the best ways to transform your sex life according to the latest research.   In this episode, you will hear:    The barriers on improving your sexual life The importance of length and type of foreplay for experiencing a mind blowing sex How mindfulness and yoga can aid your libido Relationships between sexual function and sleep Three tips on tracking and improving your sleep The first step you need to take if you want to incorporate mindfulness in your daily routine   References: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12483 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30097137 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006899311014302 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0005796714000497 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15497058         Resources https://mindwell.healthy.ucla.edu/resources/sleep-well/ https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2care https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  In order to make an appointment call us at (310) 600 9912 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Tammi 201934min