Boundaries : Why do I need them?

Topics covered : Palestine, people power, social justice, privilege, culture, indigenous languages, Gaeilge, patriarchy, oppression, being Muslim, Brené Brown, whiteness, female empowerment. This week, journalist, filmmaker, podcaster, presenter and writer, the remarkable Dr. Myriam François is my guest.Myriam is a Londoner whose mother is Irish (she's from Leitrim), and her father is French. Her award-winning, directorial debut documentary is ‘Finding Alaa’ and her podcast is ‘We need to talk about whiteness’. She’s been a Muslim since she was 21 and when she was younger she also starred in a number of films, including acting alongside Emma Thompson and Kate Winslet in the Oscar winning ‘Sense and Sensibility’ when she played the role of younger sister Margaret.In this conversation though, we talk about the recent Sky interview she did that went viral ('I'm so sorry your Amazon packages are delayed!'), the importance of indigenous languages, Palestine, Brené Brown’s recent statement on what’s happening there, and why she’s not really a fan of the word activist.She’s a woman of integrity and intelligence and it was an absolute honour to speak to her.Book mention : ‘Black faces, white masks’ by Frantz FanonAnd if you connected to this episode, other Ready to be Real podcast recommendations are :'Daniel Maté : Dismantling blindspots', 19th January 2024 and 'Ruth Smith : Love and Justice', 15th December 2023.If you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23 Helmi 20241h 1min

Topics covered : Fear, regret, fertility journey, acceptance, career change, anxiety, toxic positivity, triggers, comparisons, peak performance.Life coach Mark Fennell is back on the pod!Mark is married to Fiona and has spent over 20 years helping people through his coaching business.His online following has grown massively over the past few years too and on Instagram, he currently has 160K followers and is known for his video content.We last spoke over 2 years ago and his episodes are still hugely popular with listeners.In this conversation, he talks about his brand new book ‘Breakthrough - practical steps for moving from stuck to unstoppable’.Mark is speaking of his own experience in this episode and is certainly not advising not going to therapy.If you're struggling, reach out and speak to a professional.Mentions:Book ‘Man's search for meaning’ by Viktor FranklMen in Black movie reference : NeuralyzerNick VujicicHome - Nick VujicicTo contact Mark, go to…https://markfennell.ie/If you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

17 Helmi 202453min

Topics covered : TV presenting, change, leaving on her terms, her Mum Brenda, grief, parenting, family life, synchronicities and signs.This week I speak to TV presenter Karen Koster who lives in Dublin with her husband John, a retired businessman and their 3 kids, Finn who is 9, JJ who is 8 and their daughter Eve who is 5, along with their dogs Brownie and Nidge!She has a degree in English literature and French from Trinity and she has been working in TV for the past 20 years.In this conversation she talks about her decision to step away from her much loved presenting job with Virgin media’s The Six O Clock show late last year to spend more time with her family and explore new career options.And she also speaks about her Mum Brenda, who died suddenly 2 years ago this May and she shares how she is coming to terms with her passing.If you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

9 Helmi 202451min

Topics covered : Accountability, acceptance, action, hoarding, guilt, repetition, transformation. This week I speak to stylist Fiona Hayes who lives in Limerick with her husband Trevor, their 2 boys Matthew and Ross, along with her Dad Nick. She has been dressing people for over 15 years, many who are well known. She also runs her own bespoke retail events company, and she has appeared on TV from Channel 4’s Queen of Frocks to TV3 and most recently RTÉ’s Today show.And in this conversation she shares a lot of style tips with us, along with the importance of doing a wardrobe detox, the benefit of upcycling and what to spend your money on when it comes to your clothes.You can find out more on her Instagram page @fhstyle or email her fiona@fhstyleResources :Online apps /stores for vintagehttps://www.vestiairecollective.com/https://www.depop.com/https://linktr.ee/thriftify.comhttps://whackvintage.ieInstagram - @corkclothesswap Bra fitting services www.peachesandcream.iewww.arnotts.ie Vamp Lingerie Limerick Sheer Elegance Lingerie Nenagh Rental www.theivorycloset.comwww.soha.ieIf you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

2 Helmi 202453min

Topics covered : Overcorrection, parenthood, perfectionism, overwhelm, labelling, resilience, smart phones, porn, the importance of setting boundaries.Originally from Douglas in Cork, psychotherapist Richard Hogan lives in Dublin with his wife and their 3 daughters.He writes a weekly column with the Irish Examiner and often appears on TV and Radio and he specialises in working with families.He’s also written two books ‘ Parenting the screenager’ and ‘Home is where the start is’ and during this conversation he talks about anxiety in kids and teenagers, the importance of building resilience in our kids, the impact of mobile phones and the prevalence of porn use and how that is affecting the lives of young people. He covered so much and as always, I learnt so much by listening to him, especially on the importance of asking your kid questions.If you found this conversation useful, I recommend you check out Richard's previous episode from last summer, if you haven’t heard it already.And he’ll be back again soon, next time with a totally different topic.Richard is pushing for legislation around pornographic material and limiting access to children which is the unfortunate current reality.I’ve signed my name, I hope you will too, thanks.Please sign this petitionIf you’re a fan of what I do, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places.And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

29 Tammi 202454min

Topics covered : his relationship with his Dad Gabor, Zionism, privilege, Jewishness, Palestinians, heartbreak, perspective, purpose.This week I speak to the brilliant Daniel Maté and it’s a conversation that has really helped me and I think you’ll feel the same when you listen to it.Originally from Vancouver, Canada, he now lives in Brooklyn, New York and he’s an award-winning composer, lyricist, and playwright for musical theatre. Outside of music and theatre, he runs the world’s only “mental chiropractic” service, ‘Take a walk with Daniel’.He also co-authored the New York Times bestselling book, ‘The Myth of Normal : Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture,’ with his father Dr. Gabor Maté and they have a second book in the works, ‘Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children’, based on their popular workshops of the same title.For those who are not aware of Daniel's background, his great grandparents died in the Auschwitz concentration camp and his father Gabor was a holocaust survivor and a former Zionist.He also went to a Zionist summer camp in childhood, so his perspective on what's currently happening, is really valuable.In the first half of our conversation he talks about his work, his relationship with his father and how different they are as people.And then later, we discuss Palestine and what he has to say is enlightening.He talks about Zionism, privilege and what he learnt about himself during his time in a Mexican jail.If you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Cork, Sunday March 24thThe Myth of Normal with Daniel Maté - www.pcpsi.ieGalway, Thursday 28th MarchDaniel Maté – monroesgalwayTo take a ‘walk with Daniel’…WALK WITH DANIEL: a mental chiropractic service Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

19 Tammi 20241h 17min

Topics covered : Money scripts - avoidance, vigilance, status seeker, worshipper; scarcity, self-sabotage, ancestral trauma, financial infidelity, secret spending, sales, marketing, dopamine, advice.In my first episode of 2024, I speak to Loretta Kennedy about money.She's an accredited trauma informed money coach with a background in business, psychology and counselling. Originally from Mayo, Loretta lives in Cork with Ruairí, her soon to be husband, and partner of 20 years and their 3 daughters.And in this conversation she covers a multitude, from the different types of money scripts that we operate from and our behaviour around money, what happens to us when we spend, money issues in relationships and she also shares practical tips on how best to approach our finances.Resources :The Century of the Self: The rise of consumerismhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DnPmg0R1M04Book mention - Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv EkerMoney Script quiz:https://www.bradklontz.com/moneyscriptstestIf you are in financial difficulty:https://mabs.ie/To contact Loretta https://loretta-kennedy.com/https://www.instagram.com/itslorettakennedy/Free masterclass she is running: Prosperity & Purpose Jan 18thhttps://steep-cloud-220.myflodesk.com/l13w8flp8eIf you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

12 Tammi 20241h 25min

Topics covered : her childhood, the power of journaling, self-worth, being wronged, sitting with pain, authenticity, gaslighting, boundaries, growth, inner child, healing. Over the Christmas break, I’m re-releasing some powerful episodes from 2023 and in February, I spoke to Lebanese-Canadian author, poet, speaker, activist and educator, the incredible Najwa Zebian.Najwa being a guest on ‘Ready to be Real’ is a dream come true for me as she is someone I have long admired.She grew up in a conservative Muslim household and writing helped her process and heal from past pain.Her voice is incredibly soothing, and she has a wonderful way of simplifying complex topics.And in this conversation she speaks about being ‘wronged’ and how best to manage it, self-worth and sitting with your pain, gaslighting, the importance of boundaries and how to heal.And at the end of the conversation, I ask her a question that has a profound impact on both of us.You can find Najwa’s latest book ‘Trust Your Heart’ online and in audio form on her website Najwa Zebian | Author. Speaker. Creator | Author. Speaker. CreatorIf you’re a fan of my pod, please follow, rate and review in all the usual places. And thanks, as always, for your support of Ready to be Real. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

29 Joulu 20231h 14min