We’re Giving Up Performative Sex

We’re Giving Up Performative Sex

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop. How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons. The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms). Show Notes: For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code SWE. Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

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SWE: Romantic or Repulsive?

SWE: Romantic or Repulsive?

Emily and Menace debate whether Valentines Day is adorable or horribly repulsive. If you are going to celebrate the Hallmark made holiday, Emily breaks down the best and worst date ideas, including fast food picnics and Costco dates. Also, Emily talks about elitist penises, sex with virgins, men who don’t want sex, and the worrying, titillating trend of robberies at sex toy stores. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

8 Helmi 201244min

SWE: Bend over Boyfriend

SWE: Bend over Boyfriend

Guest Carol Queen talks about Bend over Boyfriend and first time anal sex tips. Is anal the new blow job? Emily and Carol discuss antique vibrators. Carol’s first vibrator was a Swedish massager she stole from her father’s barber supplies. In the Victorian Era, vibrators looked like dryers and were used to treat hysteria -- a made up illness assigned to bored, sexually unsatisfied housewives. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

6 Helmi 201253min

SWE: Casual Encounters

SWE: Casual Encounters

Emily was up late last night making jello shots and Menace wants a ride to the Sex With Emily party, how to meet women, the stop and start method and casual sex etiquette: cuddling, oral sex and swapping numbers Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 Helmi 201233min

SWE: Bitter Sweet

SWE: Bitter Sweet

Emily attends the wildly successful Good Vibrations store opening in Oakland, CA, Emily interviews Kandi from Real Housewives of Atlanta - show will air this week, Emily solves a listener's stamina concerns, the number one fantasy for men and women, a bitter sweet final sex story, and Valentine's Contest to launch tomorrow. And yes, you could really win. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

30 Tammi 201238min

SWE: Pornophobia

SWE: Pornophobia

Emily talks about pornophobia- people’s fear and love of porn. Menace watched his first porn at six and understood everything. Emily watched her first porn video at 12 and was turned on, but didn’t know what it was. What porn means about your relationship and the best porn for couples. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27 Tammi 20121h

SWE: Pleasing Teasing

SWE: Pleasing Teasing

Emily prepares a speech for a Singles Convention and Menace is resentful of hot women (no surprise here). How Emily handles Valentines Day, "expiration dating", and teasing your partner sexually without being annoying. Emily talks about how long foreplay should last and why it’s important. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24 Tammi 201259min

SWE: Own your O

SWE: Own your O

Emily is over sober January and Menace wants to find a nice girl and get married, the quest for the G-spot continues and does it even exist?, exercising the penis and how to own you Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23 Tammi 201245min

SWE: Dude, Where's my G-Spot?

SWE: Dude, Where's my G-Spot?

Emily prepares a speech for a Singles Convention and Menace is resentful of hot women (no surprise here). How Emily handles Valentines Day, "expiration dating", and teasing your partner sexually without being annoying. Emily talks about how long foreplay should last and why it’s important. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20 Tammi 20121h 1min

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