Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | E19

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Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?

In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.

They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker.

They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory.

For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage.

Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship.

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy? 03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it 04:09 Is your relationship ready for this? 07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them 09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner 11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely 17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after 19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps? 23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle 26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on 30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you? 33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier 35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics 37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment 44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple? 46:56 The biggest mistake couples make

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If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies:

>> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship

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