Ep 24 - Redefining Real Intimacy: How Make Love Not Porn is Changing the Conversation
Porn is reshaping how we view intimacy, and Make Love Not Porn is leading the charge. In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for MLNP, to discuss how the platform is redefining adult content by showcasing real-world sex—authentic, unscripted, and deeply connected. We dive into how MLNP challenges mainstream porn stereotypes, promotes sex-positive representation, and ensures every submission prioritizes consent and authenticity. Saniyyah shares what it means to be an MLNP Star, how curators maintain ethical standards, and why realistic depictions of intimacy matter in a world oversaturated with performative pleasure. We also unpack the impact of ethical adult content on relationships, self-image, and sexual empowerment.If you’re searching for porn alternatives, curious about other types of adult content, or want to explore how real people are reclaiming their pleasure, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in for a candid, sex-positive conversation that just might change the way you think about intimacy.Episode Highlights: 00:27 What is Make Love Not Porn?04:16 Curator's Role and Responsibilities16:57 The Importance of Sex Education20:59 Consent and Safe Practices21:59 Teaching Boundaries to Children23:08 The Importance of Comprehensive Sex Education23:52 Make Love Not Porn: User Engagement and Trends24:40 Astrology and Sexual Activity Insights28:21 Community and Privacy in Make Love Not PornCheckout Make Love Not Porn: https://makelovenotporn.tv/https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotpornhttps://www.facebook.com/mlnp.tv/https://twitter.com/makelovenotpornhttps://www.youtube.com/user/makelovenotporntv/featuredSend Your Videos Here: saniyyah@mlnp.tvConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.
2 Huhti 40min
Ep 23 - From Pec Popping to Daddy Dom: A Conversation on Creating Content and Kink Relationships with Dilly form The Life of Dillyyy
What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline.We explore what it means to be a “pleasure dom,” the unexpected emotional impact of kink-informed relationships, and why communication—yes, even post-nut communication—is everything. Dilly shares how his past relationship introduced him to the daddy dom/little dynamic, how kink showed up in his love languages, and why even “entry-level” kink still requires serious consent and clarity. We also get into content creation, algorithm struggles, and the fine line between sexy and silly when you’re trying to grow an audience on platforms that love to censor.If you’re curious about what a soft-launch into kink can look like—or how to blend sensuality, humor, and dom energy into your personal brand—this episode is full of playful insight and real talk. Tune in for an open convo about dominance, desire, and learning what turns you (and your audience) on.Episode Highlights: 01:36 From TikTok Fame to OnlyFans06:18 Creating Viral Content13:58 Exploring Kink and Relationships15:12 Becoming a Daddy Dom22:27 Exploring Kinks and Roleplay22:56 Keeping the Spark Alive25:06 Communication in Kink33:52 Love Languages and ConnectionConnect with Dillyhttps://www.instagram.com/thelifeofdillyy/https://onlyfans.com/lifeofdillyhttps://x.com/thelifeofdillyConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.
26 Maalis 41min
Ep 22 - Kinky vs. Vanilla: Can Your Relationship Survive the Difference?
What happens when one partner is kinky and the other is strictly vanilla? Is it possible to find common ground, or are you setting yourself up for long-term frustration?In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I break down exactly how to navigate this mismatch—starting with how to open up the conversation, get clear on your needs, and avoid making your partner feel like they’re not enough. We’ll talk about the biggest mistakes people make when introducing kink, how to approach the conversation without overwhelming your partner, and what to do if they shut it down completely. Plus, I share my personal experiences (and hard-earned lessons) from past relationships where kink compatibility—or lack thereof—became the dealbreaker.If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship can survive a kinky/vanilla divide, this episode gives you the real talk you need. Whether you're trying to ease a partner into kink or figuring out if compromise is even possible, this episode is packed with practical advice. Tune in to learn how to navigate this tricky dynamic, communicate your desires effectively, and decide what’s truly right for you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 Navigating Differences: Communication Tips02:33 Personal Experience and Professional Advice08:51 Handling Rejection and Moving Forward10:02 Tips for Effective Communication13:42 Building Confidence in Kink15:45 Can Kinky and Vanilla Relationships Work?18:47 Conclusion: Finding Balance and HappinessConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.
20 Maalis 21min
Ep 21 - Dominance & Submission 101: Communication, Boundaries & Building the Right Dynamic
Most people think a Dom/sub relationship is all about power and control—but the reality is, it lives and dies by communication. A strong D/s dynamic isn’t about one person calling all the shots while the other blindly obeys. It’s about negotiation, trust, and making sure both partners’ needs are met. So how do you create a dynamic that actually works? And more importantly, how do you avoid the common pitfalls that can turn power exchange into something unhealthy?In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down what makes a D/s relationship thrive, from defining roles and boundaries to spotting red flags before they become a problem. Whether you’re a Dom, sub, or switch, I’ll walk you through how to tailor your dynamic, build trust, and communicate like a pro. We’ll also talk about why no one is a “perfect” Dom or sub right out of the gate, how to test out dynamics safely, and why writing out your expectations can save you a lot of frustration down the line.If you’re ready to build a D/s relationship that actually works for you, this episode is a must-listen. Whether you’re brand new or fine-tuning an existing dynamic, hit play and let’s talk about how to make power exchange empowering for everyone involved.Episode Highlights: 02:03 Understanding Switches02:27 Exploring BDSM Tests04:04 Healthy Power Exchange05:10 Setting Relationship Goals06:48 Adjusting Dynamics07:43 Customizing Your DS Relationship09:16 Practical Tips for Beginners10:37 Feedback and Continuous ImprovementConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Take the BDSM Test: https://www.bdsmtest.orgSpeak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.
12 Maalis 14min
Ep 20: How to Find Your Kink Community: Safety, Red Flags & Building Real Connections
Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good.In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down exactly how to find local munches, BDSM events, and online communities without wasting time in the wrong places. I’ll walk you through using FetLife the right way, recognizing red flags at events, and navigating social dynamics so you’re not just standing around awkwardly sipping a soda. Plus, I share my best tips for attending events solo, making introductions without feeling weird, and showing up as your most authentic kinky self.If you’ve been struggling to find your people, this episode is your roadmap. Whether you’re brand new to the scene or looking to deepen your connections, tune in and get ready to build a community that truly fits you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 How to Find Your Kink Community03:40 Red Flags in Kink Communities04:59 Online Kink Communities and Safety Tips08:21 Attending Kink Events: Tips and Advice14:11 The Importance of Communication in Kink Relationships15:23 Building and Contributing to Your Kink CommunityGo to http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership! Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here
5 Maalis 17min
Ep 19 - Kink, Non-Monogamy & Redefining Relationships with CJ from No Shame with CJ
In this episode, I sit down with CJ from No Shame with CJ to dive into the complexities of kink, non-monogamy, and redefining relationship norms. As a fellow sex and relationship coach, CJ brings a unique perspective on what it means to explore ethical non-monogamy and how the language we use around relationships shapes our experiences. We unpack the differences between polyamory and non-monogamy, the challenges of navigating jealousy, and how to build relationship dynamics that actually work for you instead of just following traditional expectations.CJ shares how their own journey into non-monogamy and power exchange has evolved over time, from navigating long-distance relationships to integrating new partners while maintaining strong foundations. We talk about the idea of being “monogamish” and how some people choose monogamy while still engaging in kink outside their relationship, challenging the assumption that one structure fits all.If you’ve ever questioned your relationship style, struggled with jealousy, or felt pressure to conform to certain labels, this episode is packed with insights on how to unlearn outdated narratives and create relationships on your own terms.Episode Highlights: 01:52 Understanding Ethical Non-Monogamy04:00 Defining Polyamory and Solo Poly22:27 Jealousy and Possessiveness in Relationships28:00 Open Communication in Relationships32:39 Exploring Kink and Boundaries37:09 Authenticity and Self-DiscoveryConnect with CJ https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ https://www.instagram.com/noshamewithcjDownload the Feelings Tracker: https://bit.ly/FeelingsTrackerConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!Book your consultation here.
19 Helmi 46min
Ep 18 - Dating Life Updates: Spanking Parties, Dating Drama & Unexpected Feelings
In this episode, I catch up with my biz dom, Brenda, for a deep dive into my latest dating escapades—from navigating kinky dating apps to almost getting stood up on a very public date. We talk about my upcoming spanking party, the struggles of meeting compatible partners, and why chemistry is everything (even when someone seems perfect on the app). Plus, I also share a deeply personal story about an unexpected loss and how it shifted my perspective on relationships, connection, and the role of friends with benefits.From spanking parties to dating fails, this episode is a rollercoaster of good sex, bad decisions, and me questioning my life choices in real time. If you've ever debated ghosting a guy who can’t plan a date or found yourself catching feelings for a ‘casual’ situation, grab a drink—you’re in good company.Episode Highlights: 04:01 Date Number 1: 5805:37 Date Number 2: Target Guy09:22 Date Number 3: 77 Minutes Guy 14:18 Date Number 4: Never Been Kissed21:35 Navigating Mixed Feelings and Desires24:37 Grieving and Seeking Comfort31:48 Balancing Dating and Personal GrowthConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.
14 Helmi 24min
Ep 17 - Answering Kink Questions and Discovering Dominance with Zach Moore
In this episode ofThe Kink Consultant, I sit down with my former personal trainer and newly single friend, Zach Moore, as he navigates dating after nearly 15 years in a relationship. From exploring kink on dating apps to discovering his dominant side, Zach shares his experiences with Field, primal play, DDLG dynamics, and learning the ropes (literally) of BDSM.We dive into what it’s like to date with intention, how he’s balancing casual connections with self-discovery, and why understanding aftercare is just as important as exploring new kinks. Whether you’re new to the scene or just love a good dating story, this episode is packed with insights, laughter, and plenty of real talk.Episode Highlights: 00:58 Exploring Casual and Kink Dating01:52 Discovering Personal Kinks04:55 Dominance and Submissiveness07:32 Primal Play and Kink Dynamics16:56 Age Play and Boundaries35:20 The Value of Coaching42:56 Intentional Dating and AppsConnect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultanthttps://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book yourFREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!Book your consultation here.
12 Helmi 45min
