Ep 37 - The Parallels of My Dating Life and Ali Hazelwood's The Deep End: A Dating Update and a Book Review From the Lens of The Kink Consultant

Ep 37 - The Parallels of My Dating Life and Ali Hazelwood's The Deep End: A Dating Update and a Book Review From the Lens of The Kink Consultant

What happens when a self-proclaimed vanilla romance lover brings a spicy book to The Kink Consultant for a breakdown?


In this episode, I’m joined by Brenda (my Bizdom) and Tish (my podcast editor and first-time guest) as we kick off the official Kink Consultant Book Club with a deep dive into The Deep End by Ali Hazelwood, plus a quick update on my own dating life. I share my take on the book through the lens of a kink consultant and why the story felt a little too close to home. Because while we were reading about a dom who disappears for days and a sub who doesn’t speak up for what she needs, I was ending a real-life relationship that unraveled for the exact same reason: lack of communication. The timing couldn’t have been more aligned.


We explore the difference between fantasy and functional dynamics, how kink is portrayed in books versus how it plays out in real life, and why honest communication will always be hotter than skipping straight to the sex.


If you’ve ever read a spicy scene and thought, “Wait… is this how it actually works?” or you’re curious about how kink and power exchange show up beyond the page, this one’s for you.


Episode Highlights:

04:21 Discussing 'The Deep End' by Ali Hazelwood

11:01 Amanda's Relationship Update

15:09 Navigating Kink and Communication in Relationships

19:03 Cultural Differences in Communication

20:44 The Importance of Communication in Kink

25:32 Sexual vs. Non-Sexual Kinks

30:29 Fantasy vs. Reality in Kink

35:29 Final Thoughts on 'The Deep End'

36:32 Join the Kink Consultant Book Club


Join the Book Club:

https://www.patreon.com/amandadames/membership


Read Deep End by Ali Hazelwood:

https://amzn.to/43PFYiY


Connect with Me:

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1


Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

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Ep 16 - Dirty Daddies Do Vegas: Creating Space for Every Story with Rayanna Jamison

Ep 16 - Dirty Daddies Do Vegas: Creating Space for Every Story with Rayanna Jamison

In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the incredible Rayanna Jamison, USA Today bestselling author, co-founder of GTB Publishing, and organizer of the thriving Dirty Daddies community. We dive deep into her journey as an author, the growth of the Dirty Daddies Party Room, and the exciting plans for the upcoming "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention. Rayanna shares insights into the evolution of the kink and romance genres, her transition from author to publisher, and how she's built a welcoming, inclusive community for readers and writers alike. Discover what it takes to craft compelling kink fiction, build inclusive communities, and turn passion into a thriving genre—this episode is packed with insights you won’t want to miss! Episode Highlights:  [2:45] How Rayanna started writing and transitioned into publishing. [12:10] What defines a “Dirty Daddy” and how the genre has evolved. [22:40] Details about the "Dirty Daddies Do Vegas" convention: panels, parties, and more! [35:50] The challenges and rewards of running a growing online community. [45:00] Why kink in fiction should remain distinct from real-life practices. Connect with Rayanna Jamison: Website: mydirtydaddies.com Join the Dirty Daddies Party Room on Facebook: Search “Dirty Daddies Party Room” Check out GTB Publishing: GTB Publishing Connect with Me:  https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! Book your consultation here.

29 Tammi 33min

Ep 15 – Sex-Ed, Kinks, and Being Open-Minded: A Conversation with My Vanilla Mom

Ep 15 – Sex-Ed, Kinks, and Being Open-Minded: A Conversation with My Vanilla Mom

In this episode, I sit down with my mother, Angela, to explore her journey from growing up in 1960s Ireland to becoming an open-minded, supportive parent. She shares how her traditional upbringing shaped her worldview and how moving to England in her 20s introduced her to a more progressive perspective on sex, relationships, and individuality.   We dive into the unique dynamics of our mother-daughter relationship, including how her openness and humor allowed me to embrace my kink identity and confidently pursue a career in the kink community. She also shares how she processed learning about my work as a dominatrix, her reactions to the stigma surrounding women’s autonomy, and her advice for parents on staying open-minded and supportive of their children’s authentic selves. Whether you’re a parent, curious about the intersection of family and kink, or just here for the laughs, this episode is filled with heartfelt stories, genuine insights, and candid moments. Grab your headphones and join us for a conversation that’s as honest as it is heartwarming.   Episode Highlights:  01:08 Sex Education in 60s and 70s Ireland 08:06 Mother-Daughter Relationship Dynamics 18:24 Discussing Kinks and Fetishes 23:35 Parenting Reflections and Challenges 35:38 Moving to Ireland and Cultural Differences   Connect with Me:  TikTok: @thekinkconsultant  Instagram: @the_kink_consultant

23 Tammi 39min

Ep 14 – Exploring the Power of Music and Kink with Deore

Ep 14 – Exploring the Power of Music and Kink with Deore

In this episode, I sit down with musician and kinky creator Deore to explore the fascinating intersection of music and kink. Known for her bratty sub energy and vulnerable, thought-provoking lyrics, Deore shares how music has become a powerful outlet for self-expression, healing, and connection within the kink community.  We dive into her creative journey, including how her hit song “Humor Me” reshaped her relationship with her Dom and sparked deeper conversations about vulnerability and shame. She also opens up about balancing kink identity with societal expectations, creating a safe space for listeners to feel seen and understood.  Whether you’re curious about kink, passionate about music, or both, this episode is packed with insights on how art can transform the way we connect with ourselves and others. Grab your headphones and join us for a candid conversation that blends creativity, empowerment, and authenticity.    Episode Highlights:  03:12 Discovering kink identity through music  12:25 “Humor Me”: The song that redefined her relationship  18:40 Overcoming shame and embracing vulnerability  26:55 How music builds connection within the kink community  34:20 Advice for communicating your kinks in relationships    Connect with Deore:  Instagram: @deorebby  Spotify: Deore’s Music    Connect with Me:  TikTok: @thekinkconsultant  Instagram: @the_kink_consultant

16 Tammi 42min

Ep 13 – Dating Life Update: Age Gaps, First Kisses, and Some Reflections

Ep 13 – Dating Life Update: Age Gaps, First Kisses, and Some Reflections

Once again, I’m joined by my Business Manager and close friend, Brenda, as we dive into a whirlwind week of my dating life. From navigating an unexpected age gap with a mysterious man, to rediscovering the thrill of a first kiss on a mini-golf date, I’m sharing it all.   We also dive deep into the emotional complexities of intimacy, including how a spontaneous connection stirred up unexpected feelings about a past relationship. Plus, we explore the challenges of balancing power dynamics, trust, and boundaries in kinky dating, offering insights for anyone navigating these unique waters.   Whether you’re here for the juicy details or practical dating advice, this episode has something for everyone. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about the twists and turns of dating in today’s world!     Episode Highlights   02:41 Age Gap Dilemma  14:59 Navigating Sub-Dom Dynamics  18:05 Third Date: Mini Golf Adventure  21:10 Intimacy and Grieving the Past  25:38 Reflecting on Dating     Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/     Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here.

19 Joulu 202426min

Ep 12 – A Sneak Peek Of My Dating Life: Meeting Target Guy

Ep 12 – A Sneak Peek Of My Dating Life: Meeting Target Guy

In this episode, I sit down with my Business Manager and friend, Brenda, to unpack my dating life—and trust me, there’s plenty to talk about! We dive into my adventures navigating the modern dating world, from the hilarious chaos of my first date at a Target Starbucks, to the highs and lows of finding meaningful connections today.  We also explore the nuances of kinky dating, offer advice for those stepping into it, and tackle some fantastic listener questions. From the best dating apps, subtle ways to signal your preferences, and so much more.  Whether you’re here for the laughs, the insights, or just a behind-the-scenes peek at my dating life, this episode has something for you. So grab your headphones and join us for an honest, lighthearted conversation about all things dating!     Episode Highlights   02:08 Target Guy: The Front Runner  11:04 Deep Conversations and Future Plans  19:17 Navigating Modern Dating: First Date Reflections  23:59 The Kink Factor: Dating Apps and Preferences     Download the BeeDee App and use the code: THEKINKCONSULTANT  Head http://www.beedee.com get 50% off your first month of premium by using this code!     Go to http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership!         Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/     Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here.

11 Joulu 202426min

Ep 11 – Paws and Play: Understanding Puppy Play with Pup Locrian

Ep 11 – Paws and Play: Understanding Puppy Play with Pup Locrian

In this episode, I had an absolute blast chatting with the amazing Pup Locrian. We dove into all things puppy play, its rich history and how it's different from the furry community.   Pup Locrian shared some super cool insights on what it means to be a puppy, the gear involved, and even the physical workout it can be! We laughed about treats and toys, and talked about how to find your local puppy community. We also touched on the joys of puppy conventions and competitions. Whether you're a curious newbie or a seasoned player, there's something for everyone.  So grab your headphones and join us for a fun and informative conversation that's sure to get your tail wagging!    Episode Highlights  01:29 Understanding Pup Play  03:52 Pup Play vs. Furries  11:29 Personal Journey into Kink and Pup Play  24:41 Discovering the Joy of Puppy Play  32:10 Finding Your Local Puppy Community  41:46 Resources and Recommendations    Connect with Pup Locrian:   https://www.instagram.com/pup_locrian/  https://www.tiktok.com/@locrian_pup  puplocrian@gmail.com    Resources Mentioned:   https://www.pupplay.info/  https://ashleykahurangi.com/book-writing/canis-major/  Puppy Play by Tosa Alphainu    Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/    Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here.

28 Marras 202447min

Ep 10 - Pleasure and Purpose: Catherine Drysdale's Journey Through Sex and Relationship Coaching

Ep 10 - Pleasure and Purpose: Catherine Drysdale's Journey Through Sex and Relationship Coaching

This week, I’m thrilled to have a candid and insightful conversation with my dear friend, Catherine Drysdale, a dedicated sex and relationship coach whose passion shines through every aspect of her work. We explore Catherine's unique journey to becoming a coach, the impactful sex education and workshops she offers, and the challenges she bravely navigates as a voice in the sex-positive space.We dive into the hurdles she faces with social media censorship, as well as her innovative methods like group guided masturbation workshops and the use of NLP to help clients release pleasure blocks. Her mission is powerful and clear: to provide support, foster community, and create safe spaces where people can explore, embrace, and celebrate their sexuality.    If you're ready to connect more deeply with yourself, reclaim joy in your sexual life, or simply learn more about Catherine's transformative approach, listen in and join the conversation. Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode with someone who might need it, and leave a review if you found value in our discussion.     Episode Highlights   03:43 Challenges in the Sex Education Space  04:47 Navigating Social Media and Censorship  09:26 Innovative Workshops and Guided Practices  15:27 The Power of Hypnosis and EFT Tapping  22:06 Catherine's Personal Journey and Career Shift    Connect with Catherine:   https://www.catherinedrysdale.com  https://www.instagram.com/iamcatherinedrysdale  https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcatherinedrysdale    Connect with Me:   https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant  https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/    Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!  Book your consultation here.

20 Marras 202431min

Ep 09 – Locktober, Chastity Cages, and Other Kinks with Larah Sky  

Ep 09 – Locktober, Chastity Cages, and Other Kinks with Larah Sky  

In this episode, I’m sitting down with the fierce and fabulous Larah Sky where we dive deep into her journey from viral videos to becoming a trusted voice in the kink community. And trust me, you don’t want to miss her unfiltered takes on boundaries, fantasies, and embracing kink with confidence. Lara breaks down how she uses humor and creativity to handle internet trolls, and yes—we talk all about those infamous spit videos that have captivated audiences! We also explore the nuances of Locktober and the role of chastity cages in kink culture. Whether you’re curious about foot fetishes or fascinated by giantess fantasies, this conversation has something for everyone.    Lara brings the heat with practical advice on exploring kinks safely, setting boundaries, and unlocking deeper connections with yourself and others. Plus, her tips on caging, feminization, and more niche kinks might just inspire your next adventure! Tune in for a fun, eye-opening chat that’s sure to leave you thinking—and maybe even exploring—new possibilities.    Episode Highlights 04:06 Chastity Cages and Locktober 17:04 Hard Limits and Intrusive Thoughts 29:16 Personal Icks and Boundaries 37:35 Cross-Dressing and Communication in Relationships 42:48 Unique Kinks and Fetishes 48:27 Online Scams and Safety Tips 52:38 Advice for Exploring Kinks   Watch Larah’s Content: https://www.larahsky.com/ http://www.tiktok.com/@larahsky69 http://instagram.com/larahsky     Connect with Me:    https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant   https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/      Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!   Book your consultation here.

1 Marras 202444min

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