Unlearning Self-Hatred: How Society Shapes Our Inner Dialogue

Unlearning Self-Hatred: How Society Shapes Our Inner Dialogue

In this deeply human conversation, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Holli Howard, trauma-informed life coach, gentle guide, and founder of Positive Living Coaching, to explore the often invisible roots of self-hatred and the emotional confusion shaped by societal norms. Together, they unravel how messages like "stay positive," "don't be dramatic," or "just get over it" can fracture our relationship with ourselves, creating shame around the very feelings meant to guide us.

With honesty and compassion, they examine why so many people carry quiet self-loathing without realizing it—and how we can begin unlearning the inherited scripts that keep us disconnected. This episode offers a gentle path back to emotional truth, self-understanding, and a more loving internal dialogue.

Choose one moment today to speak to yourself with humanity instead of judgment. When you notice an emotional reaction—big or small—pause and ask: "If I believed my feelings were valid and meaningful, what would I need right now?"

Holli's links: Website, Insta

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Episode 16: Selectively Safe

Episode 16: Selectively Safe

Hello, Hello Hello! Welcome to episode 16! Suz, the Okie Wax Queen/Best damn aestetician in Oklahoma, is here with us today! I love her sweet soul and hope you do, too!

3 Kesä 20241h 1min

Episode 15: Anonymously Unavailable With Jane Doe - Session 1

Episode 15: Anonymously Unavailable With Jane Doe - Session 1

Meet Jane Doe, as she will be anonymously, unavailably, available to us on Fridays. She is one of my oldest and closest friends and I'm so happy you all are getting a chance to meet her. Enjoy!

31 Touko 202456min

Episode 14: The Power Within...

Episode 14: The Power Within...

Oh, ya'll ain't ready for this. Kiana is a wave maker -  a world changer- a certified B. A. B. We still working on our audio issues so we had a little of that but man, don't let that stop you from tak...

29 Touko 20241h 7min

BONUS EPISODE: MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS (HAPPY BIRTHDAY WILLIE)

BONUS EPISODE: MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS (HAPPY BIRTHDAY WILLIE)

I started this episode as a way to be emotionally available and intimate about my feelings related to my brothers mental illness (Schizophrenia). It lead me down the road of visiting my own path of me...

28 Touko 202429min

Episode 13: A Little Sugar, A Lot Of Spice

Episode 13: A Little Sugar, A Lot Of Spice

Meet Shane! We had a fun little talk about being direct (blunt), saying what we feel and what we need, and how to move in a way that honors our most authentic self and our inner most needs. I hope you...

27 Touko 202444min

Episode 12: POV

Episode 12: POV

Man, could I identify with Tina's struggles. That's the thing, we are all dealing with something inside of ourselves. I hope that this episode helps you to start to understand your insides just a litt...

24 Touko 202453min

Episode 11: Past, Present, Future

Episode 11: Past, Present, Future

Meet Chad of N/T Performance. I love his redemption story and how he chooses, daily, to overcome his past. Join our discussion and hear his hopes for the future.

22 Touko 202447min

Episode 10: Maybe, Maybe not...

Episode 10: Maybe, Maybe not...

My conversation with Jessie brings up some really interesting points worth exploring. Man, our moms really messed us up lol. Enjoy!

20 Touko 20241h 6min

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