#230: How Do I Know My New Partner Will Be Better Than My Last One? (Ask Steph)
In this Ask Steph episode, I respond to a listener question that will feel very familiar to anyone with anxious attachment: How can I be certain that my new partner will be better for me than my last ...
5 Helmi 6min
#229: The Hallmarks of a Secure Relationship
A secure relationship isn’t one where nothing ever goes wrong — it’s one where the foundation is strong enough to hold the hard stuff. For many people (especially those with anxious attachment), insec...
3 Helmi 19min
#228: When You Want More Words of Affirmation — But Don’t Want to Ask (Ask Steph)
In this Ask Steph episode, I respond to a listener question about wanting more words of affirmation from a partner — but not wanting to feel like you're constantly asking for it. This is a really comm...
29 Tammi 7min
#227: The Most Common Forms of Self-Sabotage After a Break-Up
Break-ups are painful — but often, the way we try to cope with that pain can quietly keep us stuck in it for much longer than necessary.In this episode of On Attachment, I walk through five of the mos...
27 Tammi 19min
#226: “If They Wanted To, They Would” (Ask Steph)
In this Ask Steph episode, I share my perspective on the phrase “if they wanted to, they would” — and why it’s sometimes helpful, but often oversimplified.I talk about the difference between basic eff...
22 Tammi 6min
#225: How to Know Whether to Keep Trying or Walk Away from a Relationship
Few decisions feel as emotionally loaded as deciding whether to keep trying in a relationship or to walk away. There is no universal right answer — and for many people, especially those with anxious a...
20 Tammi 19min
#224: I Drunk Texted My Ex and Feel So Much Shame — Help! (Ask Steph)
In this Ask Steph episode, I’m answering a listener question that many people can relate to: drunk texting an ex, waking up full of shame, and not knowing what to do next.I talk about why this happens...
15 Tammi 5min
#223: What It Really Takes to Make an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship Work
Anxious–avoidant relationships are often described as doomed — intense, painful, and inherently incompatible. While these dynamics can certainly be challenging, they’re not automatically destined to f...
13 Tammi 14min
