Revolutionise Your Love Life21 Des 2025

96: Intentional Dating at Christmas: Choose Calm, Not Chaos

Welcome to this festive episode of Revolutionise Your Love Life. Christmas can stir up pressure to couple up, say yes to the wrong person, and slip back into old family roles. In this solo, Heather shares a grounded guide to intentional dating through the holidays, how to spot values you can build a relationship on, and how to stay in your calm, capable adult self at family gatherings. She closes with a simple “family meeting” ritual so the season feels considered, kind, and genuinely joyful.

Key Takeaways

Do not date to soothe seasonal pressure. Date with the same standards you want to live with in January.
Choose calm over chaos. Reliable warmth beats intoxicating drama.
Scan for values: trust, respect, follow-through, kindness to staff and family, clean history with exes, aligned life plans.
Stay in your adult self around relatives. Do not engage the old child roles.
Run a short family meeting so everyone feels seen and Christmas feels intentional.

If you are ready to start dating with intention, get your hands on my Delicious Dating Guides and kiss the single life goodbye:
https://heathergarbutt.com/kiss-the-single-life-goodbye/

About your host:
Heather has been working in mental and emotional health for over 30 years. First as an Art Psychotherapist then as a Counsellor and Couples Therapist. She now specialises in love and relationship coaching.

Heather is a qualified Calling in “The One” and “Conscious Uncoupling” coach, having been trained and mentored by Katherine Woodward Thomas. In addition, she is a long-term accredited member of The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, Health and Care Professions Council registered and a member of The British Association of Art

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