Stop Drifting Into Exclusivity! How Commitment Happens On A Feminine Timeline

We fall into relationships all the time… and we often have no idea what the details actually are.

We enter vague relationship deals.

So here’s the question:

Why do we accept such vagueness from men?

This would make an incredible masterclass topic, because the situation often determines what that vagueness looks like and what it’s really about.

But underneath it all, it stems from something deeply human:

So many of us don’t feel skilled enough to literally get what we want.

Not skilled enough to ask for what we want.

And even deeper than that…

Not actually knowing what we want.

We are vague with ourselves.

If I asked you right now: What do you want?

What would you come up with?

Most women say something like, “I want him to do something…”

But that’s not a want - that’s a strategy.

Those are little pieces.

And you can see how we become anxious, scattered, and all over the place when we don’t know the core thing we truly want.

People call them “needs” - the six human needs, the Tony Robbins framework…

But honestly?

I’m much more interested in want.

Desire.

I love the word desire because it wakes you up. It turns something on inside you.

And when you feel turned on, you have so much more power than when you don’t.

Because when you’re turned on, you’re looser.

You’re more open.

You can feel yourself.

When you’re not turned on, you’re shut down somewhere.

And this is exactly the kind of work we do inside Siren Island.

On Siren Island, you’ll have trained coaches walking with you in live classes each month, helping you practice clear, direct communication that actually feels good in a relationship…

…and so much more.

Siren Island is here:

https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-program/

love, Rori

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