99: Slow Dating, Real Love: Integrity, Receiving and Choosing Well with Jessica Yip

In this heartfelt conversation, host Heather Garbutt welcomes coach Jessica Yip, a Calling in The One and True You Coach who helps high-achieving people trade old stories for living, breathing love. Jessica shares the belief that shaped her early life, 'I am alone', and how integrity, self-responsibility and learning to receive transformed her dating and her partnership with Trevor. Together they explore slow, conscious dating, repairing family bonds, practical communication, and the everyday negotiations that make real love feel safe and alive.

Key Takeaways

• Integrity as wholeness: Alignment between values and behaviour creates the conditions for healthy love. Walk your talk in every relationship, including family.

• From chemistry to choice: Notice overgiving, rescuing and low standards. Believe people when they say they are not available. Date slowly and test for consistency.

• Heal the root to change the fruit: Naming early beliefs like I am alone and speaking honestly with family can release lifelong patterns and expand capacity for intimacy.

• Live your life fully: Claim the place, creativity and community that are true for you. Alignment magnetises compatible partners.

• Relationship is a practice: Agree workable systems for contact, chores and sleep. Ask for help, receive it, and communicate preferences without blame.

About Your Host:
I married at 34 with great hope for a long, happy marriage and a family. Over time, though, the relationship unraveled into power struggles, criticism and emotional distance. My own childhood conditioning had left me disconnected from my feelings and needs and despite years of personal work, I couldn’t see a way forward. We separated in 2007.

I stayed on my own for several years, not wanting to repeat the pattern again. In 2016 my life transformed. Through discovering Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work, I called in my “One.” Although I was already a trained psychotherapist and deeply committed to self-development, this work created breakthroughs I hadn’t experienced before. To give my new relationship the strongest foundation possible, I trained as both a Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One” coach. Through that process, I learned to honour myself more fully and to build love rooted in trust, presence and emotional truth.

As a psychotherapist of over 35 years, I was genuinely surprised to discover through this work, entirely new levels of insight, empowerment and relational skills, insights I now live and practice within my own relationship.
Whether you are recently separated, healing unresolved pain from the past, or longing to create a deeply nourishing relationship, I would be honoured to support you.

Together, we can help you reconnect with your authentic self and open the door to lasting, meaningful love.

About Jessica:
Jessica Yip is the coach for hardworking people who feel like they’ve ticked all the success boxes in life but are aching for more love and joy.

As a leading Calling in “The One” Coach, and now as one of the first certified True You Coaches personally trained by Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jessica helps clients graduate from old stories and painful patterns that keep love at a distance. She brings over a decade of experience blending transformative coaching, somatic attunement and relational skill-building to help you reconnect with your aliveness, agency and power to create healthy relationships, meaningful experiences, and the delicious life and love you’ve always longed for.