252. How to Break Out Of The "Should I Stay Or Go?" Loop In Relationships

252. How to Break Out Of The "Should I Stay Or Go?" Loop In Relationships

I'm getting into relationship rumination and that "should I stay or should I go" loop that keeps you stuck without ever actually making a decision. I'm covering the science behind why your brain does this, the difference between ambivalence and relationship anxiety, and a set of guided reflection questions to help you figure out what you actually want. I also share my own experience ruminating for years before leaving my ex, answer listener questions from Instagram about dealbreakers, timelines, and finding the courage to leave, and give you practical tips for breaking the cycle. At the end, I tackle a dating dilemma from a woman whose boyfriend of four years has always said he can't marry her.


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244. Building Inner Security (So Dating Doesn't Make You Spiral)

244. Building Inner Security (So Dating Doesn't Make You Spiral)

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243. These Small Moments Make or Break Your Relationship w/ Zach Brittle, LMHC

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242. Leaning Into a Slow Burn When You're Used to Intensity & Sparks

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241. Dating With Different Cultural Backgrounds w/ Marina Iakovleva

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240. Stop Confusing Connection for Compatibility (Dating Dilemmas)

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239. Singles Events, Setups & Lessons From Vetting 800 Men w/ Alli Goldberg

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