S5:E7 - Nelly & Violet

From Chronic Illness to Solo Mum: Nelly’s Long Road to Violet

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of miscarriage, fertility challenges, and medical complications during pregnancy.

Season 5 continues with Nelly’s story — one of resilience, persistence, and navigating an incredibly complex path to motherhood.

Nelly didn’t grow up assuming she would have children. With a history of renal failure, transplants, and years of medical treatment, motherhood didn’t feel like a given.

But over time, that quiet desire became impossible to ignore.

In this episode, she shares:

• Living with chronic illness and how that shaped her path to motherhood

• The unexpected discovery of a rare genetic condition during fertility testing

• A long IVF journey with multiple cycles, losses, and setbacks

• The decision to move forward with an egg donor — and how a friend changed everything

• Navigating complex medical care throughout pregnancy

• A sudden and traumatic early birth at 30 weeks

• Life in NICU and the emotional reality of becoming a mum in those circumstances

This episode is raw, honest, and deeply human.

Key Takeaways

• The journey to motherhood can be far more complex than expected.

• Advocating for yourself and asking questions can change everything.

• Support networks can shape your entire experience.

• There is no “perfect” path — only your path.

• Even the hardest journeys can lead to something incredibly meaningful.

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