Why Men Come to You… or Don’t (And It Has Nothing to Do With Looks)

Here's the Question: I want to be friends with a recent ex, and I know that we want different things romantically, but how can I build back the trust and support as friends when he refuses to talk to me?From Rori: All right. You may hate me, but don’t. Don’t do it. Stop it.Too much energy. Ridiculous. For your real wants. He’s a friend.He’s not going to help you. Forget it.Plus, you’re trying to convince him because he’s not coming towards you. You’re totally staying in your masculine energy for a reason.And the reason is you feel lonely, right?You want to, and you want to win too.Let’s see. Yes, you want the win of winning him over.Please don’t do it. Please step away.If I was doing one-to-one with you, I would… even in a master class, I know you’d fight me and you’d say, “oh, but he’s really a worthwhile person. There’s so many things that he could offer me. He could get me a job. He could do this. He could do that.”Doesn’t matter.He’s… like this. You’re going like this forward and he’s moving away. You’re just chasing him.And guess what? All this energy that you’re using on that is just crippling you from what you really want, which is an honest relationship.But I’m here to tell you, I know because I know this in myself.If you meet a man who starts moving towards you, you’re going to run because internally, this is all you can handle.You have to practice.You have to practice just staying like this, like a flower open and let guys come to you and try to pollinate you.Just let them come to you.If you feel scared and you start to run away, I want you to notice that.But going forward is always the losing strategy.Going forward after someone is always a losing strategy.Any strategy is losing.But you’re in your mind, you’re in your masculine.Don’t.Stay still.Being a siren is all about stillness.It’s all about serenity.It’s all about staying on your island.It’s all about singing.It’s all about you singing.If you recognize yourself here, if this feels familiar…Siren Island is where you want to be.Join me on Siren Island here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori