Trying Is Timid

What if the word "try" is the thing quietly keeping you stuck?

Sam took the whole family to see Scream 7 (a full-circle moment, since she took Christine and her sisters to the original 30 years ago), and somewhere in the middle of the movie, a single line stopped her cold: "Trying is timid." She was fumbling for a pen in the dark theater, writing it on her checkbook, because it hit that hard.

This episode is what came out of that. Sam and Christine dig into Carla Androsik's book Stop Trying and ask a pretty honest question: why has "I'm trying" become such a comfortable place to hide?

We've all said it. I'm trying to eat better. I'm trying to save money. I tried to call you back. But trying is tentative. It's half-committed. It lets us off the hook before we've even started, and it protects us from the fear of failing out loud.

In this conversation, Sam and Christine talk about:

Why "trying" creates confusion in the brain and takes personal responsibility off the table

How fear of failure sits underneath most of our trying

Christine's marathon training as a real-life case study in doing, not trying

The shift from doing to being, and why that question stopped Sam in her tracks

Consistency over intensity, and why the slow, honest version of effort actually wins

How Christine's mindset shift started when she noticed her own fear showing up in her kids

Whether you're the intense one or the chill one (hi, Sam and Christine), this one's a gentle nudge to drop the hedge, own the outcome, and go do the thing.

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