Ep. 443: From overwhelm to calm: understanding your nervous system with Dr Brooke Weinstein

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In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe returns for her first newly recorded show since maternity leave and sits down with Dr. Brooke Weinstein to unpack what nervous system regulation really means for mothers. Dr. Brooke, a doctor of occupational therapy and neuroscience-based sensory and emotional regulation expert, explains why being “regulated” doesn’t mean calm all the time. Instead, it means having the awareness and tools to move through stress, recover more efficiently, and reduce the constant peaks and crashes so many parents experience.

They talk through why nervous system regulation has become such a buzzword online, how social media often oversimplifies healing, and why understanding your own sensory profile, triggers, and patterns matters more than quick-fix hacks. HeHe and Dr. Brooke also discuss postpartum overwhelm, identity shifts after baby, communication with partners, shame-free ways to respond to emotional meltdowns, and how both parents can experience dysregulation during the transition to parenthood.

Timestamps

00:00 Awareness Before Change 01:03 Nervous System Basics 05:46 What Regulation Means 11:44 Regulation Is Not Calm 17:14 Peaks, Valleys, and Resets 19:09 No Shame, Just Data 23:45 Reparenting Self Talk 29:47 Autopilot and Patterns 36:15 Quick Wins Postpartum 41:04 Brain-Body Awareness Tools 49:51 Pregnancy and Nervous System 58:31 Regulation vs Newborn Phase 01:01:10 Partner Support and Communication 01:12:02 Avoid Quick Fix Gimmicks 01:15:41 Closing Resources and Wrap Up

Guest Bio:

Dr. Brooke Weinstein is a leading expert in neuroscience-based sensory and emotional regulation, helping parents and high performers create healthier, more sustainable lives through practical, science-backed strategies. A doctor of occupational therapy and creator of the THRIVE Like a Parent podcast, Brooke is known for combining neuroscience expertise, humor, and honest conversations about burnout, healing, and modern parenthood. With more than one million followers and over half a million podcast downloads, she is trusted by families and Fortune 500 leaders alike.

Connect with Dr. Brooke:

https://drbrookeweinstein.com/

Instagram: @brookeweinst: https://www.instagram.com/brookeweinst/

Tik Tok: brookeweinstein: https://www.tiktok.com/@brookeweinstein

Youtube: dr.brookeweinstein: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC40kFZWuWeZ_-e2fFDTgzgw/videos

SOCIAL MEDIA:

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