Breakups + Heartache

This episode is all about a highly requested topic: breakups and heartache. We’ll talk about the difference between “clean pain” vs “dirty pain,” as well as the importance of fully metabolizing the pain and sadness that comes from the end of any relationship (and what happens when we don’t). We also dive into the role history and societal expectations play in how we validate or judge relationships, and why using the length of a relationship to legitimize it isn’t helpful - at all. We explore relationships being there for a reason, season, or lifetime, and how resisting reality (the relationship has run its course; the other person feeling it’s done, even if we don’t agree; facing that we really aren’t satisfied in the relationship) really screws us in the end. And of course, we talk about how we can cause ourselves way less unnecessary suffering, and instead move towards transformation and growth.

You will learn:

// What clean and dirty pain are, and how to tell the difference

// How to go from dirty to clean pain and help ourselves heal

// How to steer clear of shame and blame

// The role societal expectations play in how we validate or judge relationships

// The benefits of “conscious uncoupling”

Resources:

// Episode 2: How to Not Care What Other People Think About You

// Episode 16: How to Improve Any Relationship

// Episode 18: How to Coach Yourself

// Episode 24: How to Be With Any Emotion

// Episode 36: How to Let People Be Wrong About You

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