The Stories We Tell Ourselves: How assumptions destroy relationships

How often have you assumed you knew exactly why your partner did something, only to find out you were completely wrong?

In this episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah explores one of the biggest hidden relationship killers: the stories we tell ourselves. When our brains don’t have enough information, they fill in the blanks. Unfortunately, those stories often come from our fears, past experiences, attachment wounds, and cognitive biases instead of reality.

You’ll learn why your brain is wired to make assumptions, how cognitive distortions and confirmation bias can quietly sabotage your relationships, and why most couples aren’t arguing about what happened but what they believe it meant.

Sarah breaks down the psychology behind these patterns in a relatable way and shares practical tools you can start using today to separate facts from assumptions, communicate with curiosity instead of certainty, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I know exactly why they did that,” this episode might completely change the way you communicate with the people you love.

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