The Guide to Your Backdoor | With Renowned Anal Surgeon Dr Evan Goldstein | Episode 3

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Evan Goldstein, a nationally renowned anal surgeon and the founder of Bespoke Surgical. Dr. Goldstein discusses his mission to destigmatize anal health and education, sharing insights from his book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between. He explains how his own journey from cardiac surgery to specializing in queer-friendly intimate health was driven by a need for better standards of care and education in the community.

The conversation explores the various cultural myths and stigmas that prevent people from experiencing pleasure and maintaining proper anal health. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the critical role of understanding personal anatomy and gradual progression to avoid trauma and injury. He also shares his vision for the future of intimate wellness, highlighting new technologies like Tempure for non-surgical tissue strengthening.

Key Takeaways

• Education as Prevention: Proper education regarding anatomy and function is essential to prevent injury and foster a healthy, lifelong sex life.

• Step-Wise Progression: Many sexual traumas occur when individuals attempt "something big" too quickly; gradual exploration and pre-lubrication are vital for success.

• Challenging Cultural Stigma: Dismantling myths about anal play being "dirty" or linked to specific personality traits is necessary to improve sexual outcomes and overall well-being.

Show Summary

• 00:00 - Intro and Dr. Evan Goldstein's Mission
• 01:39 - Origin Story: Transitioning from cardiac surgery to intimate health
• 03:41 - Core Mission: The importance of dispelling taboos through education
• 05:28 - SHA Community: Experience as a keynote speaker at the annual conference
• 07:11 - Destigmatizing Health: Affirming care for the gay community
• 10:08 - Cultural Myths: Debunking common misconceptions about "backdoor play"
• 13:10 - Anatomy 101: Why understanding your body changes everything
• 16:21 - Trends in Wellness: The rise of aesthetic and preventative anal care
• 18:41 - Future Generation: Practical steps for families and allies to reduce shame
• 21:02 - The Ugly Truth: The pressures of leading in a niche medical field
• 23:15 - Personal Challenges: Dr. Goldstein’s own wellness journey
• 24:14 - Rebuilding from Scratch: Social media, community practice, and "the give model"
• 25:44 - Final Message: Encouraging exploration and living without limits

Resources Mentioned in this Episode

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More from this episode’s guest at:

• Book: Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything in Between
• Clinic: Bespoke Surgical
• Brand: Future Method
• Social Media: @DrEvanGoldstein

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