126. The Blame Game: Midlife Shadow Work & Owning Your Sh*t: Human Design, Projection, Accountability & the Leo Eclipse

Sometimes people really are assholes. 😂 And sometimes the thing that's pissing us off about someone else is pointing directly at something we haven't wanted to look at in ourselves.

As eclipse season stirs things up, Lori is diving into the messy, uncomfortable territory of projection, shadow work, accountability, and self-leadership. When someone projects their fears, feelings, or patterns onto us, how do we discern what actually belongs to them and what is ours to examine? And when we're triggered, how can we use the experience as information rather than immediately deciding who's right and who's wrong?

With the Leo solar eclipse as the backdrop, Lori explores the shadow and light of Leo energy: the desire to be seen, recognized, and special, but also the ways we can suppress our own visibility and resent people who confidently take up space. She connects this to Human Design Strategy and Authority and the practice of coming back to what you actually know to be true for yourself rather than getting swept up in someone else's story about you.

And because this is midlife, there's another layer. Sometimes the discomfort is a sign that the identity, relationships, roles, and expectations we've carried for years are no longer fitting. Midlife can crack us open enough to question what we actually want, what we're willing to carry, and who we're becoming.

This episode is an invitation to stop asking only, "Who's at fault?" and start asking, "What's mine here?" Because self-leadership doesn't mean accepting everyone else's projections as truth. It means learning to recognize what isn't yours, take responsibility for what is, and use even the uncomfortable moments as an opportunity for growth.

Key Takeaways:

• How do you tell the difference between someone else's projection and your own shadow?
• Your anger has a story. What might your trigger be trying to tell you?
• Leo has a shadow side. Where might it be showing up in your life?
• What does self-leadership actually require?
• How do you separate what you know from what you've been conditioned to believe?
• What if the conflict is part of the growth?
• How midlife is an opportunity for rebirth into the wild woman

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