Ep 46 | Sex After 40: More Pleasure, Fewer Rules with Julie Weitlauf

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Perimenopause can change your sleep, your body, your mood, and — because apparently the transition needed another hobby — your sex life.

Returning guest Julie Weitlauf, PhD, joins the OvaryActive Docs to talk about low libido, vaginal dryness, unpredictable bleeding, less-intense orgasms, and the deeply unsexy experience of thinking about tomorrow's dinner during intimacy.

The conversation explores why satisfying sex in midlife may require more time, better stimulation, fewer distractions, and a willingness to stop comparing forty-something you to your nineteen-year-old self. Julie explains how mindfulness, body image, relationship dynamics, sexual shame, past experiences, and changing identities can all influence desire and pleasure. Big surprise, simply telling yourself to relax is not a particularly effective treatment plan.

This conversation offers practical ways to expand the sensual menu, reconnect with pleasure, and approach midlife intimacy with curiosity instead of panic.

What you'll hear in this episode:

[1:35] Perimenopause, Sex Myths, & Midlife

[5:07] Recenter what you want

[9:13] Relationships & Life's Mental Load

[13:55] Normal Desire & Pleasure Gaps

[16:51] Expand Your Menu

[26:17] Menopause Sex Concerns (mindfulness, sensate focus, body image, scheduling)

[40:26] Substance Use and Sexuality

[44:08] Questioning Sexual Identity in Midlife

[48:07] Relationship and Family Dynamics

[52:47] Make Pleasure a Priority by Expanding Your Intimacy Menu

Resources:

Julie Weitlauf on LinkedIn

Managing Hot Flushes and Night Sweats by Myra Hunter

psychologytoday.com/us

Follow the show @OvaryActive Instagram | YouTube | perimenopausedrs.com/ovaryactive

Estrogen, Interrupted by Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su & Dr. Amy Voedisch

Meet the Docs:

More information about Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su:

Gennev: www.gennev.com/clinician/dr-rebecca-dunsmoor-su

LinkedIn @rebecca-dunsmoor-su

More information about Dr. Amy Voedisch:

Stanford Medical Clinic: stanfordhealthcare.org/doctors/v/amy-voedisch.html

This episode was produced by Audiotocracy Podcast Production.