On masking, meltdowns, and strength-first parenting (with Alex Manners)

In this episode, Guy is joined by Alex Manners, a 28-year-old autism advocate, speaker, and author. Alex shares what it was like growing up autistic, getting diagnosed at 10 (Asperger’s at the time), and navigating school when support wasn’t always there.

We talk about masking, bullying, anxiety, and why meltdowns often happen after school, once the stress has built up all day. Alex also shares the coping strategies that genuinely helped, including using special interests as a calming reset.

We also look at what schools and workplaces can do better, and why reasonable adjustments and autism training should be standard, not something families have to fight for.

Chapters:

• 00:00-00:49 Welcome + who Alex is
• 00:49-02:50 The Undateables: how Alex got on the show + first date
• 02:50-04:56 Before diagnosis: why the world felt confusing
• 04:56-06:45 Diagnosis + "special powers" framing
• 06:45-13:17 School experience: bullying, teachers, feeling misunderstood
• 13:17-15:29 Masking: "hidden disability" and its cost
• 15:29-22:09 Meltdowns after school: the "final straw" effect
• 22:09-(end) Coping strategies: special interests, regulation tools, what helped most

Alex Manners: www.thealexmanners.com

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About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.

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