Why Trauma Can Leave Us Feeling Unworthy

Building a genuine sense of worth takes more than simply telling ourselves we're worthy. Sarah explains why positive affirmations aren't enough to change how we feel about ourselves, and how to actually shift your experience by working at the nervous system level. Discover how learning to love and accept yourself from within can expand your capacity to receive love and embrace more of the life you want.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [00:43] How your sense of self-worth affects your ability to receive
• [08:36] Ways early experiences can undermine your sense of worth
• [11:53] How protective parts try to earn love
• [15:26] How feelings of unworthiness can lead us to settle for less
• [16:20] Building your capacity to receive more goodness
• [18:45] Your internal sense of worth shapes your relationships and experiences
• [20:30] Becoming your adult self and learning to take up space
• [24:31] Positive affirmations alone aren't enough to build self-worth
• [25:17] Using parts work to reconnect with and love your younger parts
• [37:51] Question 1 - Why do I stay in relationships that aren't right for me?
• [44:24] Question 2 - How can I heal the young part of me that feels unloved?
• [50:10] Question 3 - Why do I only feel okay when the people I love are okay?

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Quotes:
“If we learned to survive on breadcrumbs, if we learned that we had to earn our worthiness, then we are really going to struggle to experience the abundant, full life that we want.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:05:23]

“If we want to build more goodness in our life, it starts as an internal job, and then we have other folks help us along the way, and we are able to bring in more abundance, more goodness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:17:20]

“When we, bit by bit, do this work of loving and valuing ourselves the way we were inherently supposed to be loved and valued, everything begins to change, and we allow other people to do that for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:11]

“Our system only will believe what it feels.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:24:54]

“We have to learn what it's like to be the highest version of us, regulated us, parent us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:25:24]