3 Essentials to Create New Habits

3 Essentials to Create New Habits

You can choose. - New years - New beginning - Time to create turning points in life - Give you 2 keys to make any new habit stick - I can’t - One of my least fav phrases - It means we aren’t capable. - It means we don’t have agency, - Agency is o Knowing what is right and wrong o consequences o Ability to choose o - Any missing – don’t have agency - A lot of us have, in our heads a laundry list of things that we can’t do. - I want to give you three keys to help you deal with that list and start doing the things that you want to do - More importantly these three things will help you become who you want to be. - Because this is so important, - Want it to stick - Not going to talk about 5 things or 10 just two - If you want to make a permanent change to anything in your life. - New habit - You have to do two things - First, make it doable every time. o Let’s say you want to be able to do 50 pushups o Your goal will be to just do one o When you are going to do it, all you have to do is one. o If you want to be a runner, your goal is to put on your shoes o If you want to eat healthier your goal is to write what you’re eating once a day - Second, attach your goal to something you are already doing. o 50 push ups, do one every time you finish peeing. o Running? If you want to do it first thing in the morning, put your shoes on immediately after you turn off the alarm o Food journaling – right as you sit to eat, before you pick up your fork. - third – create and believe in I am statements o Change is most effective when it is who we are not what we are doing o I’m a push up fanatic o I’m a runner o I’m a healthy eater o Don’t have to be doing it all the time, or even consistently o We all know a hunter – they say, “I’m a hunter” o No one is like, “are you hunting right now?” o Have you hunted in the last week? Prove to me you’re a hunter o We just take people at their word o The more we believe we “are” the more we are likely to act in a way that reflects that belief o

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