Eric Barker: Success and Happiness

Eric Barker: Success and Happiness

This week we talk to Eric Barker Eric is a thought leader in the field of success. His humorous but practical blog, Barking up the Wrong Tree, presents science-based answers and expert insight on success in life. Over 270,000 people subscribe to his weekly email update and his content is syndicated by Time, The Week, and Business Insider. He has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Financial Times, and he was a columnist for Wired. With a writing career spanning over twenty years, Eric is also a sought-after speaker and interview subject and has been invited to speak at MIT, West Point, NPR affiliates, and on morning television. His first book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong is available now. In This Interview, Eric Barker and I Discuss... His book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong How he defines success Achievement, Happiness, Significance, Legacy The dangers of only using one metric for happiness How money is a lever to something else that makes you happy rather than the thing that makes you happy in and of itself There's no finish line in the quest of what makes me feel good We must decide what is "enough" New and novel make our brains happy We must decide what really is going to make us happy in the long run Turning what we do in our lives into games can be helpful in increasing our persistence and grit Games have these attributes: Winnable, Novelty, Goals, Instantaneous Feedback A feeling of progress and meaningful work keeps us engaged Challenging yourself in a familiar task True burnout is when you start to feel pessimistic about your job so you withdraw and then you get poor feedback so you finally disengage Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose A change is as good as a rest That we are telling ourselves stories about what's has meaning and what doesn't How telling your children about their lineage will increase the likelihood they stay away from drugs, stay in school etc Therapy as editing the story we're telling about our lives Cognitive reappraisal The role of positive self-talk I can do it vs I can't take this anymore If you break your arm you wouldn't say "I am broken" you'd say "My arm is broken" Listening to our thoughts from a distance and asking "is this useful?" to be more mindful about what thoughts we identify with We don't choose what makes us happy, we choose what's easy The role of a plan How anticipation is happiness Please Support The Show with a Donation m is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?” The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable. This parable goes by many names including: The Tale of Two Wolves The Parable of the Two Wolves Two Wolves Which Wolf Do You Feed Which Wolf are You Feeding Which Wolf Will You Feed It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

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Distracted or Empowered? Rethinking Our Relationship with Technology with Pete Etchells

Distracted or Empowered? Rethinking Our Relationship with Technology with Pete Etchells

In this episode, Pete Etchells brings a fresh perspective to the discussion on rethinking our relationship with technology. He challenges prevalent assumptions and encourages a deeper exploration of the nuanced effects of technology on our mental health and overall well-being. Pete shares some of the complex research and distills it into comprehensible insights for a more informed understanding of the intricate relationship between digital devices and mental health. Key Takeaways: Understand the nuanced effects of screen time on mental health Discover effective digital detox methods to improve well-being Explore the impact of social media on overall mental and emotional health Learn strategies for managing and overcoming screen addiction Recognize the role of technology in attention and distraction, and how to navigate it effectively For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Nov 20241h 2min

The Power of Visualization to Achieve Your Goals with Emily Balcetis

The Power of Visualization to Achieve Your Goals with Emily Balcetis

In this conversation, Emily Balcetis discusses how we can embrace the power of visualization to achieve your goals. Emily’s research-backed strategies provide a fresh perspective on how we can use our powerful lminds and eyes to create the life we desire. She shares insights on how our visual environment influences our behavior and offers practical tips for setting ourselves up for success. Key Takeaways: How to accurately track progress and use it for motivation The impact of visual focus on our perception of goal achievability When to narrow our focus and when to widen our perspective Practical ways to frame our environment for success The connection between what we see and the actions we take For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Nov 202457min

A Journey of Embracing Grief and Finding Joy with Rosemerry Trommer

A Journey of Embracing Grief and Finding Joy with Rosemerry Trommer

In this conversation, Rosemerry Trommer shares her journey of embracing grief and finding joy. She delves into her personal experiences with grief and the profound impact it has had on her life. Rosemerry’s reflections highlight the intertwined nature of sorrow and praise, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion in navigating life’s challenges. With unwavering honesty, she shares how she found peace and joy amidst the darkness and offers a unique perspective on the transformative power of embracing the profound interconnectedness of grief, love, and the human experience. Key Takeaways: Navigate the delicate process of grieving with grace and understanding Discover the transformative power of finding peace through poetry during times of emotional turmoil Uncover the intricate process of emotional healing and how it can lead to resilience and growth Embrace the importance of self-compassion in grief and its impact on the journey to healing and acceptance Learn the art of embracing life’s mundane moments and finding joy in the everyday For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Nov 202449min

Understanding Identity and How Our Past Shapes Who We Become with Catherine Gray

Understanding Identity and How Our Past Shapes Who We Become with Catherine Gray

In this episode, Catherine Gray discusses identity and how our past shapes who we become.  She shares her journey from writing non-fiction to crafting her first novel, which contains some themes from her life experiences. Catherine also delves into the ongoing battle between nature and nurture in forming our personalities and addictive tendencies as well as the impact of our choices in determining our future. Key Takeaways: The power of small decisions in shaping our life's trajectory How attachment styles influence our relationships and behaviors The challenges of new parenthood and societal pressures on mothers The subtle ways we manipulate narratives in our daily interactions Strategies for breaking free from people-pleasing tendencies For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Nov 20241h 1min

Navigating the Impossible Standards of Masculinity with Ruth Whippman

Navigating the Impossible Standards of Masculinity with Ruth Whippman

In this episode, Ruth Whippman discusses navigating the impossible standards of masculinity. Ruth has grappled with the conflicting emotions of mothering boys and societal shifts and she found herself questioning the very essence of masculinity and its impact on her sons. She delves into the challenges boys face in navigating societal expectations and the lack of language for them to articulate their experiences. Through her personal experience and research, Ruth sheds light on the overwhelming pressure boys encounter to conform to traditional masculine standards, while also questioning the divisive nature of the term "toxic masculinity." Key Takeaways: Understanding toxic masculinity and learning to empower boys to be their authentic selves Navigating the shifting landscape of raising sons for healthier relationships and respectful behavior Embracing the beauty of blending masculinity and femininity to create a more inclusive and empathetic society Embracing the profound impact of body shaming on men and how to promote positive body image for boys Redefining masculinity standards for boys to foster a culture of kindness, emotional intelligence, and self-expression For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Nov 202454min

Understanding How Trust Works and Why it Matters with Peter Kim

Understanding How Trust Works and Why it Matters with Peter Kim

In this episode, Peter Kim explains how trust works and why it matters. Peter has conducted extensive research on the factors that influence trust and has contributed significantly to the understanding of trust in relationships and society. His work sheds light on the impact of intention on trust dynamics, offering valuable insights into the fundamental role of trust in our interactions, provides a deeper understanding of these dynamics at play in our everyday lives. Key Takeaways: Uncover the crucial role trust plays in shaping our communities Learn how to navigate and manage the delicate nature of high initial trust in relationships Discover how to assess trust levels based on both competence and integrity, leading to more meaningful connections Acquire effective strategies for repairing trust through genuine apologies and actions Explore how intention shapes trust dynamics and influences the quality of relationships For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Nov 202444min

Wisdom for Living While Navigating the Journey Towards Death with Kathryn Mannix

Wisdom for Living While Navigating the Journey Towards Death with Kathryn Mannix

In this episode, Kathryn Mannix shares the wisdom she has gained as a palliative care expert for living while navigating the journey towards death. She explains how we can approach death with greater understanding and less fear and offers insights that challenge our common perceptions about dying. Key Takeaways: The importance of having open conversations about death before its imminent How the process of dying is often more peaceful than we imagine Why planning for end-of-life care should focus on what matters most to the individual The predictable patterns of dying and how understanding them can bring comfort Ways to support loved ones through their final days For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Okt 202456min

Hope for Healing Chronic Pain with Yoni Ashar

Hope for Healing Chronic Pain with Yoni Ashar

In this episode, Yoni Ashar explains the elements of neuroplastic pain and offers hope for healing chronic pain. In his work with”Pain Reprocessing Therapy” he delves into how this unique approach differs from traditional pain management techniques. Yoni’s research challenges our understanding of pain and opens up new possibilities for healing and well-being. Key Takeaways: The role of fear and threat perception in maintaining pain Key indicators that your pain might be neuroplastic The three components of somatic tracking in working through pain How to create a sense of safety around pain sensations For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Okt 202454min

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