Make Your Damn Bed30 Mar 2022

Day 409 || things i stopped doing shoutout

@ALEX_ELLE on instagram:

I stopped doing these things to create healthier relationships with others (and myself):

Expecting people to read my mind. Instead, I started naming my needs and being clear about my boundaries.

Pretending to be strong and okay when I'm not. Instead, I started being honest and vulnerable about my feelings.

Being silent about the things that have hurt me. Instead, I started speaking up and having hard conversations with those around me.

Dishonoring my boundaries to "keep the peace." Instead, I started advocating for myself.

Punishing myself for not healing fast enough. Instead, I started giving myself grace and being patient with my process.

Carrying emotional baggage that didn't belong to me. Instead, I started putting things down that I no longer wanted to carry.

Overextending myself to make everyone happy. Instead, I started saying no, I can't, or I don't want to do that.

Trying to get people to change, heal, and grow. Instead, I started meeting them where they were and accepting them for who they were.

Staying in relationships that have expired. Instead, I decided to part ways with love and compassion.

Refusing to let go because I was too scared of what could come next. Instead, I started releasing the things I knew were no longer healthy for my growth.

Avoiding conflict and hoping things would "just get better." Instead, I started facing conflict head-on, even if it felt uncomfortable.

Excusing unhealthy behavior because "I love them." Instead, I learned that I can love people and choose not to engage.

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