016: Ask David — How can I cope with a complainer? How can I help a loved one who is depressed?

016: Ask David — How can I cope with a complainer? How can I help a loved one who is depressed?

How can you help a depressed friend or family member? You may be surprised to discover that the attempt to "help" is rarely effective, and may even make the problem worse. In contrast, the refusal to help is nearly always helpful. But to understand that paradox, you'll have to give a listen to this fascinating edition of "Ask David!"

David and Fabrice also address a related problem nearly all of us confront from time to time: How do you deal with a friend who is a relentless whiner and complainer? When you try to help them or suggest a solution to the problem, they just say, "That won't work" and keep complaining. You end up feeling frustrated and annoyed, because the other person just won't listen! David and Fabrice illustrate a shockingly easy and incredibly effective solution to this problem.

Finally, David discusses some disturbing recent research indicating that the ability of therapists—as well as friends or family members—to know how suicidal someone is, is extremely poor. David and Fabrice explain how to assess how suicidal someone actually is, and what to do if you discover that he or she really is at risk of a suicide attempt.

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047: Tools... not Schools of Therapy

047: Tools... not Schools of Therapy

The title of David's TEAM-CBT eBook for therapists is Tools, Not Schools, of Therapy. David explains that the field of psychotherapy is dominated by numerous schools of therapy that compete like reli...

31 Jul 201733min

046: All You Need Is Love... or Do You?

046: All You Need Is Love... or Do You?

The Beatles tell us that all we need really need is love, and in her famous song, "People," Barbara Streisand proclaims that "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world." But is this ...

24 Jul 201725min

045: More on OCD — Cognitive Flooding

045: More on OCD — Cognitive Flooding

Fabrice begins with another question on OCD—if you successfully extinguish the symptoms with Exposure and Response prevention, would they just resurface in some other form, such as worrying, or some o...

17 Jul 201732min

044: Can OCD Be Cured?

044: Can OCD Be Cured?

David describes his treatment of a physician with OCD who was tortured by the fear that he would impulsively throw his newborn baby over the railing of his second-floor apartment. He also describes a ...

10 Jul 201729min

043: Ask David — The Hidden Emotion Technique for OCD

043: Ask David — The Hidden Emotion Technique for OCD

Listeners submitted questions on OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder): Is it an organic illness? Are drugs necessary in the treatment? What's the best book to read if you want to heal yourself? What's ...

3 Jul 201739min

042: Shame-Attacking Exercises

042: Shame-Attacking Exercises

The late Dr. Albert Ellis developed a technique to help individuals struggling with shyness. It's called Shame-Attacking Exercises. Essentially, you do something bizarre in public to overcome your fea...

26 Jun 201723min

041: Uncovering Techniques (Part 3) — The What-If Technique

041: Uncovering Techniques (Part 3) — The What-If Technique

The third uncovering technique is called the "What-If" Technique, developed by the late Dr. Albert Ellis. The What-If Technique can will help you identify a terrifying fantasy under the surface that f...

19 Jun 201734min

040: Uncovering Techniques (Part 2) — The Interpersonal Downward Arrow

040: Uncovering Techniques (Part 2) — The Interpersonal Downward Arrow

The Roles and the Rules—Psychoanalysis at Warp Speed! Most of us run into conflicts with other people from time to time, or even frequently. In this podcast, you will discover precisely why this happe...

12 Jun 201738min

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