Beat Your Genes Podcast26 Mai 2022

282: Do women avoid direct help? Career confusion, Sister needs bone marrow

In today's episode, Dr. Lisle goes over:

What would be the stone age benefit for women to seek only compassion and not direct help or solutions?
I grew up in a household with parents who successfully left their home countries and "made it" as engineers in the US. I grew up with the expectation that I would follow their trajectory - I completed a bachelors, a masters, and was always "en-route" to medical school. Post-graduate school though, things started to look a little differently for me. I lost academic steam and I fell into mystical, artsy land. Recently, I feel like I woke up from a pity-party slumber. I am getting back on the path to medical school. The problem? I am torn. I find myself battling 3 different lives: a life of sacrifice to others through usage of my scientific aptitude, a life of being a jester and using my charm to brighten people's lives, and a life of solitude in pursuit of philosophical truths. So what do I do? Why have I been torn in this position for the past 3 years since graduate school? Am I stuck in black-or-white thinking and can do all three, or have I subconsciously ran a cost-benefit analysis and have determined certain routes aren't worth it?
My sister is in need of bone marrow. As her only sibling, I would be ideal for this and have a 25% chance of matching. But this comes with serious risks for the donor. Unlike my sister, I take good care of myself, eating a whole foods diet. I am not on any medication and avoid taking even aspirins. Also unlike my sister, I am vehemently opposed to taking the vaccine. However, my doctor says that I will likely be forced to take it if I want to be her donor. I could postpone a decision and simply find out if I'm a match, but if I am, I will feel compelled to continue going down this road, a road I'm not sure I want to go down. How do I make this decision?

Host: Nathan Gershfeld

Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D.

Podcast website: www.BeatYourGenes.org

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Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus

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