4. Episode Three, The Monster Begins His Ominous Courting Dance

In this episode, I offer further narrative to exemplify how we are drawn into the corrosive effects of triangulation or” gaslighting” that the monster (i.e.: the psychopath, the sociopath, the character disordered person) introduces into relationships with those around him. We begin to notice the subtle dependencies he initiates in order to take control of his “prey”. We see how he insinuates himself into other’s lives through a subtle and sinister courting process. From the beginning, we were unwittingly drawn into the monster’s request for obedience.

*Please note, these are complex, nonverbal psychological phenomena intrinsic to the monster’s relationships. They are terms we will speak of more extensively in further episodes as narratives are offered which help illustrate these terms and behaviors, which many of you have experienced and been damaged by.

The monster feeds on the capacity to create schisms between others--even if they are not his prime target. He alienates people from each other in order to control them. The monster has his own hierarchical power structure much like a lunatic queen bee in a beehive. One queen maintains control of myriad other bees which are all there to service him/her in one way or another. The drone bees are the prime targetsin the monster’s lunatic hive. this entire network or hive is all created insidiously. Similarly, when it is dismantled, it is rarely spoken of. We are left in a state of muted chaos for a lengthy period of time.

When we are with the monster, we may realize how his disregard for boundaries allows him to steal rampantly. This thievery occurs on many levels throughout our relationship with the monster. He robs from stores, from friends, from colleagues, in order to create chaos or obtain a thrill. We may notice how his ethos seems nonexistent, yet, he is always inundating us with more chaos and attention which overarches our capacity to focus on his transgressions. read more on www.monsterstoriespodcast.com

This podcast has been a production of Honestly Speaking LLC. Suzann Kole, Ph.D. has worked in academe and the mental health field for over 40 years. She holds a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Narrative Studies,